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Fear keeps most men from pursuing meaningful and fulfilling opportunities in life – whether romantic, a business start-up, having a hard conversation, asking for a promotion or the sale, etc. But it really isn’t what we think it is – the fear of failure. More often than not, it’s the fear of what others may think about us that keeps us from going after what we desire. My guest is Dr. Michael Gervais, a psychologist who studies mastery and what keeps us from obtaining it. In fact, he has worked with Super Bowl Champions, Olympic Gold Medalists, and some of the most elite performers in the world. Today, we discuss FOPO (fear of people’s opinions), the first rule of mastery, why we care so much about what others think, how we over-index approval as a necessary part of tribe building, and the dangers in being a one-dimensional man. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS * What keeps us from obtaining mastery * Fear of people’s opinions * The first rule of mastery * Why we care so much about what others think * The dangers in being a one dimensional man * Single focused mindfulness and contemplative mindfulness * How to be present Read the full article https://www.orderofman.com/michaelgervais Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316 Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready. https://orderofman.link/battle-ready Download the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-plann... Join the Iron Council brotherhood: https://orderofman.link/iron-council Support the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise: https://orderofman.link/support-the-m... Connect with us on the socials: Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagram Facebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-page Twitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryan Join the Order of Man Facebook group: https://orderofman.link/facebook-group

In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Iron Council and Order of Man Facebook Group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. ⠀ SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (12:15) What advice would you give men going into 2024 trying to execute their main goal? (19:03) What is your strategy for creating a successful time block schedule (26:44) Is it appropriate to keep the same vision for an undetermined amount of time if it is still applicable? (38:31) In a work environment, what advice can you offer in ways of managing older men? (45:42) Why are most men so quick to put others down and criticize those who spend time creating? (55:46) What is your opinion on the idea that at some fundamental level, certain aspects of people are just who or how they are?

All of us know there’s gas left in the tank of our own personal performance. And, yet, with all the tasks and responsibilities we bear, the distractions to overcome, and our own ability to deceive ourselves, it’s challenging to meet the bare minimum at times let alone go above and beyond. So then, how exactly do we excel and produce the lives we desire for ourselves and our families. My guest today has the answers.

 His name is Lex Robinson and he is a peak performance coach and mentor. Today, we talk about the concepts of “calendar worship,” “power down process,” and “religious unitasking.” We also discuss the benefits of learning how to communicate directly, removing unimportant distractions from our lives, getting clarity on what we desire, and so much more. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS * Understanding a person’s tone and demeanor * Communicating directly with others * Getting clarity on what we truly desire * Getting comfortable with discomfort * Giving credit where credit is due * Recognizing others’ value * Overcoming distractions * Excelling and producing the lives that we desire

In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses five key strategies that you can employ in your life to reduce, eliminate, and eradicate procrastination. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 1. You must link the effort to the result 2. Identifying the lowest common denominator 3. Collapse your timeframe and use Parkinson’s Law to your advantage 4. Make lists 5. Building a carrot and a stick

For many of you, this is the first Order of Man podcast you’ve ever listened to. For many of you, you’ve listened to all 1,100+ shows we’ve done. Regardless, what you may not know is that we’ve been at this mission – reclaim and restore masculinity – for almost 9 years.

 And, I can’t think of a better way than to wind this year down as we ramp up for 2024 with a man, friend, and mentor who has been in the same game just as long as we have. His name is Larry Hagner, Founder of The Dad Edge, and, today, we talk about turning a passion into a profession, how we can best learn from our past, the key of forgiveness and what it unlocks in ourselves and others, how to raise each of our unique children, and how to create a men’s movement that matters. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS * Turning a passion into a profession * How we can best learn from our past * The key of forgiveness and what it unlocks both in ourselves and others * How to raise each of our unique children * How to create a men’s movement that matters * The growth of men’s podcasting * Behind DadEdge * The differences in raising boys versus girls * What playing sports growing up is actually for

In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses the FIVE components of goal setting that actually works. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 5 components of goal setting that actually works 1. Have a vision for where you’re going 2. Our objectives in the four key areas of goal setting (mental, physical, emotional and spiritual) 3. Everyday tactics 4. Have checkpoints along the way 5. After action review

In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Iron Council and Order of Man Facebook Group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. ⠀ SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (5:35) What does it mean to be a man? (10:15) Why is it important to be surrounded by other men who hold you accountable? (10:40) What are your thoughts on the goal of counting calories vs. eating clean. Do you value one method when it comes to weight loss? (17:00) What tips do you have for taking written and verbal advice? (29:20) How do you discern between holiday traditions that are valuable, expected, or just busy-work? (35:40) When dating at this stage of your life, what constitutes a woman of value for you? (44:50) Do you believe individual rights or personal freedoms have any boundaries or limitations? (51:00) What are your best books of the year? (52:30) How do you change an ingrained negative attitude toward the business held by the employees? (59:10) How do you deal with fear? Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316 Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready. https://orderofman.link/battle-ready Download the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-app For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood: https://orderofman.link/iron-council Support the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise: https://orderofman.link/support-the-mission Connect with us on the socials: Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagram Facebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-page Twitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryan Join the Order of Man Facebook group: https://orderofman.link/facebook-group

Passion and delusion aren’t two terms we often think of working in harmony but my good friend and guest today, Bert Sorin, makes the case that some of the most successful people in the world are not only the most passionate but often believe (with no valid reason to) that they have what it takes to succeed.

 Today, we talk about the ebbs and flows of life and improving the average between the two points, creating intentionality behind our actions, why EQ is oftentimes more important than IQ, holding back in life when we shouldn’t, and so much more.

In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses the concept of quitting, and prompting FIVE unique questions to ask yourself in order to determine whether or not it’s right to leave what you’re deciding to quit. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 5 questions to ask yourself before you quit 1. Is my feeling towards this thing temporary or sustained? 2. What does my gut, heart, soul, and/or instinct tell me? 3. Is there something that I can do to make this situation better? 4. What is it that I really don’t like about the circumstances, and can I search deeper? 5. Is the grass truly greener on the other side?

Life is full of hard-learned lessons. We all know that. But it’s been said that, “A smart man learns from his mistakes, a wise man learns from the mistakes of others.” That’s why this podcast is so powerful – because we get to hear from incredible men doing incredible things who can teach us things that would be painful, delayed, and expensive to find out ourselves.

And, I can think of few men as qualified to do so as former NASA Astronaut, Mike Massimino. Today, Mike and I talk about some of his best lessons learned in the NASA program and in space including, “no one leaves the pool until everyone passes the test,” learning to adjust to life and your goals along the way, what was different about NASA astronaut candidates that made them successful, knowing when to pivot and break a few rules, and how to achieve the seemingly impossible. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS * Mike Massimino’s books Moonshot and Spaceman * What it takes to be an astronaut * Space isn’t always glamorous * Passion and dedication * Military culture * If you really understand something, you should be able to communicate it to anybody. * No one leaves the pool until everyone passes the test * Hubble space telescope missions

In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses a pragmatic guide to gratitude, giving five reasons why we should be grateful, and five practical steps you can implement in order to have more gratitude in your life. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 5 reasons to be grateful 1. Being grateful makes you a more likable person. 2. Being grateful makes you more trustworthy. 3. Being grateful makes you happier. 4. Being grateful makes you less desperate. 5. Being grateful creates more opportunities for you. 5 ways to implement gratitude 1. Say thank you, be kind, be polite. 2. Give compliments. 3. Take advantage of your blessings. 4. When things go wrong, look for the good. 5. Use your resources to help others.

We all know there is a formula for success in any venture. We’ve all heard things like, “success leaves clues,” and seen certain people replicate success over and over and over again. And, yet, so many men struggle to create and maintain success on the professional and personal front of their lives. That’s why it’s so important we learn what protocols are required to achieve the results we desire.

 Today, I’m joined by philosopher and CEO, Brian Johnson to talk about his theory of Arete and why success on any level is so simple yet so elusive. We talk about what confidence in others actually is and how to develop it, how talent won’t get you all the way to your goals, why intrinsic motivation must be your pursuit, and the Stockdale Paradox and how to use it to your advantage. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS * Brian’s upcoming book Areté: Activate Your Heroic Potential * Maintaining trust and integrity gaps * What were you doing when you were at your best? * Creating micromoments * Being grateful for the little things * The meaning behind the word “hero” * Ancient wisdom, modern science, and practical tools * Training heroes

In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses the importance of actually doing the work and not just planning and thinking about it. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS * Stop thinking, stop planning, start doing the work * People don’t care about what you say, they care about what you do * Life is too short to NOT take action

In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Iron Council and Order of Man Facebook Group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. ⠀ SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (0:00) Episode intro⠀ (1:45) What What are some things you’ve done to embrace your shadow and reclaim pieces of yourself that were within it? (15:10) How do I scale my business when I only have one technician to do the work? (26:30) What are ways and tips to overcome mental ruts as quickly as possible? (34:10) How do I get my wife to understand that just because I work from home doesn’t mean that my job isn’t demanding as well? (51:40) What do you suggest someone do to begin preparing for the deterioration we are seeing in the world?

Men, our minds are nearly limitless and yet we spend an inordinate amount of time reading, running, working out, practicing hobbies, talking with other people, performing as best we can across various mediums and take so little time developing the power of our brains and minds.

 Of the nearly 500 guests I’ve had on this podcast, all of them believe their thing is the most important thing and, yet, it’s the mind that makes everything else possible. That’s why I wanted to have repeat guest, Jim Kwik back on the podcast to discuss how to leverage the gray matter between our ears. We talk about everything from learning to learn faster, the 6 thinking hats for decision making, 4 cognitive types (Cheetah, Owl, Dolphin, and Elephant) and how to use this information, and becoming the pilot of our minds, not just the passengers. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: * The faster you can learn the faster you can earn * The choices we make every day give us the brain that we deserve * All behavior is belief driven * You need curiosity to know yourself and courage to be yourself * Strategies for recognizing your brain/animal type * Using AI to enhance your human intelligence * Technology is neither good nor bad * Master the ability to adapt * We are flexing our “distraction” muscle all the time * Nootropics and supplements

In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses SIX things to look for when building a brotherhood to support your success and SIX strategies for finding your brotherhood. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS What to look for in your Band of Brothers * Someone you can trust * Someone you are comfortable talking with * Someone you can be accountable to * Someone you can serve * Someone who can push you * Someone who can serve you Where to find your Band of Brothers * Go where the good guys are * Never do alone what you could do with someone else * Organize events * Express gratitude * Have a plan for consistent communication * Focus on the activity, not the “relationship-building”

Every single man listening to this podcast sees issues with the current culture. And, yet, far too many men are unwilling to do anything about it. Whether it’s a disdain for current culture commentary or a bad case of apathy, ignoring what we see going on around us isn’t going to lead to anywhere positive.

My guest today, author and podcast host, Andrew Klavan, is a man who is and has been for decades actively engaged in dealing with the decline of our current culture through writing, producing films, and podcast commentary. Today, we talk about rationalization and justification for doing the wrong things, why so many people tap-dance around biological reality, why we’re losing this country through the movies, changing culture through art, when and when not to compromise, and viewing your own life as a work of art.

In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Kipp Sorensen and Shawn Villalovos take on your questions from the Iron Council and Order of Man Facebook Group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. ⠀ SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (0:00) Episode intro⠀ (3:00) Do you have some suggestions for what to search for to intentionally get their kids around other mentors and peers that enjoy fitness, outside of the team sports environment? (10:00) Was there any point that you felt that having a blended family didn't work? Do you feel that the attention you give to step children takes away from your biological children? (26:40) When life becomes challenging, as a leader, what are some things that you guys do to stay calibrated for life’s tougher challenges? (39:20) In hiring for my business, I have noticed that many applicants will apply, accept an interview, and then not show up for the interview. What does this say about young men in our society? (46:50) Do you guys have a dedicated date night? (52:00) What are some strategies for dealing with life’s stressors?

Am I the only one who isn’t crazy?! Sometimes it feels that way in the insane world we live in but there are millions of men who feel the same as we look around at what’s going on in society from gender ideology, to skirmishes and wars in distant countries, to domestic civil unrest, and everywhere in between.

 Today, I’m joined by repeat guest, Zuby, as he’s one of those men speaking sanity into culture today. We talk about everything from finding life’s mission and purpose, to the dangers of AI, how the “crisis of meaning,” is a very dangerous threat, the pitfalls of “credentialism,” why learning to promote yourself is a virtuous endeavor, and walking the line between caring what some people think, but not everyone. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: * Reaching 10 million people * Reaching a younger demographic * Most people are at least trying to be good * Concerns about losing jobs to AI * Faking anything with AI * Need for personal interaction * Kids falling behind during COVID * Finding new ways to reach people * Overcoming the aversion to promoting yourself * Be intentional about who’s opinion you care about

In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses FIVE helpful tips to help ensure that you are not betraying yourself and honoring your commitment to others. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Signs of Self-Betrayal 1. If you are never completing projects that you committed to 2. If you recognize a lack of trust from other people 3. Having feelings of inferiority, anxiety, and depression 4. Lack of fulfillment, satisfaction, and pride in your life Tips to Overcome Self-Betrayal 1. Know what you want and what you don’t want 2. Set healthy boundaries 3. Don’t overcommit 4. Learn to say no with tact 5. When you go, go all in

In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Order of Man Facebook Group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. ⠀ SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (0:00) Episode intro⠀ (1:40) How can you be tactically courageous? (4:35) How do you keep emotions out of the equation when making important decisions? (10:10) Do either of you use Testosterone Replacement Therapy? Where should someone begin? (20:20) How do you grow a small side business from $10K to $50K? (34:50) How do you use Facebook analytics to help grow your business? (41:10) How do you get over the mindset of always trying to prove yourself to those around you?

There is so much to get distracted by these days. With all of our duties, responsibilities, and obligations, it’s easy to get lost in trivial and meaningless activities and pursuits. But when we learn to eliminate and remove the distractions, we free ourselves to find something truly meaningful to obtain. My guest today is a master at doing just that. His name is Rudy Reyes. He is a former Marine Recon, author of his book, Hero Living, and host of the FOX hit show, Special Forces: World’s Toughest Test. Today, we talk about the power of a mission, developing the “executive” mindset, the strength of the inner story you tell yourself, how, when, and why to compartmentalize emotion, and going deep on pursuits that matter. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: * Staying on course when everything and everyone is trying to pull you off * Bodyweight workouts * Behind the scenes of Special Forces: Worlds Toughest Test * Our country needs to be reminded of patriotism and old world values * Military values that can apply to the civilian world * The expeditionary approach to life * From military to living on your own terms * God’s role in the journey * God granting empowerment * Making a comeback

In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses FIVE steps to help to help men attack the challenges that may be holding us back from reaching our goals in life. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 1. Have a “do it right” mindset 2. Maximize effort, maximize efficiency 3. Anchor your activity to your vision 4. Prioritize effective effort over immediate results 5. Don’t backslide

In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Iron Council. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. ⠀ SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (0:00) Episode intro⠀ (3:00) What does the future vision of yourself look like when you are happy with who you are today? (12:20) What is an unexpected IC-related moment that really stands out to you? (21:30) What defines a leader? If a man is showing up as he should at home and work, is it possible for him to not be a leader? (27:30) Can you provide some tips on how we can play the long game but still live in the moment? (37:40) Is good enough ever good enough? (44:30) When is it appropriate bring concerns about a boss to a higher-level leader in the organization?

In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses strategies for becoming more clear, precise, and bold - and ultimately more effective - in your communication. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at@ryanmichlerand share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 1. Be precise with your goals 2. Be precise with the things you would like other people to do 3. Ask for feedback Order Ryan's latest book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316 Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready. https://orderofman.link/battle-ready Download the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-app Support the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise: https://orderofman.link/support-the-mission Connect with us on the socials: Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagram Facebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-page Twitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryan Join the Order of Man Facebook group: https://orderofman.link/facebook-group