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Feeling alone can be a wonderful feeling but what happens when feeling alone is awful? In this case feeling alone is a connection issue. Even when you are surrounded by people you may find yourself feeling disconnected. Using Brene Brown's definition of connection which is the energy that exists when people feel seen, heard and valued, we can understand more deeply what is at the root cause of feeling alone. Chapters 0:00 Introduction 1:07 Understanding feeling alone 1:55 Tapping for feeling alone 6:56 Tapping in the positive Here are the links to the videos based on Brene Brown's definition of connection How to create deeper, more intimate relationships Tapping for I'm invisible https://rumble.com/vox7eq-feeling-invisible-the-importance-of-being-seen-pt-13-to-create-loving-relat.html?mref=stmuk&mc=6lt7f Tapping for I'm not heard https://rumble.com/vozkd2-why-youre-not-listened-to.-how-to-be-vulnerable-in-a-relationship-part-23.html?mref=stmuk&mc=6lt7f Tapping for feeling unworthy https://rumble.com/vozktg-tapping-for-feeling-unworthy.-how-to-be-vulnerable-in-a-relationship-pt-33.html?mref=stmuk&mc=6lt7f This is the link for Tapping for feeling lonely https://rumble.com/vpvg4s-what-is-at-the-root-cause-of-feeling-lonely-and-how-to-fix-it-tapping-for-f.html?mref=stmuk&mc=6lt7f Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA

Tapping for feeling empty Feeling empty can be confusing because it may appear that nothing is wrong in your life yet you still feel dissatisfied. This is not to be confused with feeling numb which I have a 3-part mini series to address the dangers of feeling numb and how to heal numbness. https://rumble.com/vp3v7i-healing-trauma-the-9-dangers-of-feeling-numb-part-13.html?mref=stmuk&mc=6lt7f Instead, feeling empty is often related to a lack of fulfilment and meaning in your life. That's not to say that your life is not meaningful but your perspective of it might be lacking. At the end of the video use the tapping to help you find fulfilment on a daily basis and find a meaningful project for your life. Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:51 Steps to heal emptiness 3:52 Tapping for feeling empty

Loneliness is an emotional response to physical relationships ending or diluting in some way. What needs to be addressed are the issues underlying feeling lonely. We take a look at what you might have lost in those relationships having disappeared. Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:44 Understanding loneliness 2:23 Tapping for feeling lonely Links to the videos based on Brene Brown's definition of connection How to create deeper, more intimate relationships Tapping for I'm invisible https://rumble.com/vozkd2-why-youre-not-listened-to.-how-to-be-vulnerable-in-a-relationship-part-23.html Tapping for I'm not heard https://rumble.com/vozkd2-why-youre-not-listened-to.-how-to-be-vulnerable-in-a-relationship-part-23.html Tapping for feeling unworthy https://rumble.com/vozktg-tapping-for-feeling-unworthy.-how-to-be-vulnerable-in-a-relationship-pt-33.html Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA

Have you wondered how to make youtube videos if you can't stand the sound of your voice or you're too busy judging how you look? There are many fears that prevent us from getting in front of the camera or even starting our vlog, linked live stream, instagram video, youtube channel or live feed. This tapping script addresses those concerns and helps you to release any resistance you have and any self-doubt or self-judgement you have about creating your videos. Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:28 Why we struggle 2:16 Tapping to feel more comfortable in front of the camera

Tapping for overwhelm This video uses tapping to help you slow down the busy-ness of your mind so that you see opportunities to ease the situation in your life that is causing the overwhelm. It also helps you to trust The Universe to support you. Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:41 Tapping for overwhelm 6:28 Tapping in the positive Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA #efttapping #tapping #eft

Tapping for feeling stuck and tapping for being indecisive. This video helps you to - create clarity - release being frozen in fear - free yourself from not seeing your options - being open to seeing clearly - feeling safe to take action - feeling safe to make a decision Use this affirmation "Whatever I choose will work out best for me because Source Energy is always watching out for me" And use the tapping to create an empowered mindset Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:51 Tapping for feeling stuck Check out https://rossanneclay.com to quantum leap your healing journey Use this video in any situation. Some examples of where you can use this: - being stuck in a bad relationship - being stuck in an awful job - being stuck in a sticky situation - being stuck in financial strife #efttapping #tapping

Based on what you have learnt in part 1 and 2 of this mini-series, you are now equipped to understand the five methods you can use to dispel the feeling of #numbness. In part 1 you learnt the 9 dangers of #feelingnumb In part 2 you learnt why numbness exists in your life In this episode you learn 5 easy methods to feeling again. 1. Oxygenate - exercise, get oxygen pumping through your blood 2. Drink water and eat raw fruit and vegetables for nutrients 3. Meditate for 15 minutes every day 4. Get into nature to raise your vibrational frequency 5. Tapping to reprogram your mind so that you release the numbness, break through the barrier of not wanting to feel, and start feeling once again. Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA

Why do I feel numb? mini series Part 2 of 3 Part 1 https://rumble.com/vp3v7i-healing-trauma-the-9-dangers-of-feeling-numb-part-13.html Part 3 Uncover the reasons why you created this feeling of being numb. Part 1 reveals some insights into what you do when you go numb so be sure to check that out to understand this video more fully. In this video, you will see how feelings of being rejected, neglected or unloved created the need to suppress the pain. As a baby you experience feelings at 100% volume. As you grow you realise your parents don't always have time for you and that creates a desire to be independent, tough and resilient so that you don't have to experience the pain. When you join society, through school and other events, you learn that people don't want you to express your feelings. They expect you to behave in certain ways so that you are acceptable to them. You desire to belong so you choose to behave appropriately but this leaves you shut off from your own emotions. That disconnection creates a sense of not belonging and so you lose even more connection with people. Chapters 0:00 Introduction 1:00 How you became numb 1:19 Building block #1 - trauma 5:14 Building block #2 - full volume 7:25 Building block #3 - childhood 10:15 Building block #4 - connection 12:33 Childhood trauma 13:56 Conclusion Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA

Understand why you need to get angry... and constructively. Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA

Part 2 Part 3 You will be surprised how this feeling of numbness is impacting your life in horrible ways. Becoming aware of the dangers will help you to break free from this pattern. You will learn what numbing yourself is and why it's so important to break free from it. Part 1 explains how numbness is impacting your life and the potential dangers if you do not address the problem now. Here are the 9 dangers: 1. Lack of connection 2. Unable to Listen To Your Intuition The remaining seven are created because of the first two 3. Judging Others 4. Faulty moral compass 5. Addictions 6. Physical Illness 7. Exhaustion 8. Lack of Focus 9. Suicide Chapters 0:00 Introduction 1:20 What being numb does to your life 5:29 Dangers of numbness Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA

Listening to other people's advice often makes your situation worse. When your heart is breaking, it's easy to doubt yourself. But there are two critical things you must do to help heal your heart break and prevent future heart ache. Find out the two keys to mend your broken heart and why these two keys are so important. The two keys are: 1. Enhancing your self-love 2. Finding your purpose Check out this e-course to find your purpose https://www.rossanneclay.com/product/whats-purpose-finding-soul-purpose-e-course/ It's so important to do these two things because: 1. You don't recreate the same scenario, falling for the same traps 2. You break unhealthy patterns 3. You create a life you love Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA

Watch Part 2 here: https://rumble.com/vp1pto-tapping-to-feel-beautiful-stop-feeling-ugly-pt-2-of-2.html From a young age kids believe beauty is a "look" that you see on tv or in movies and magazines. You compare yourself, and often try to fit the mould that society says is acceptable. In this video, find out why it is so important to believe you are beautiful and how to do that. View part 2 of this series here https://rumble.com/vp1pto-tapping-to-feel-beautiful-stop-feeling-ugly-pt-2-of-2.html Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA

Watch Part 1 here: https://rumble.com/vp1oww-am-i-ugly-how-to-be-beautiful-part-1-of-2.html It's so important to feel beautiful so that you feel confident in the world. Use this video Tapping to Feel Beautiful to let go of ugliness issues. Check out part 1 of this two part series where you understand what defines beauty and what defines ugly: https://rumble.com/vp1oww-am-i-ugly-how-to-be-beautiful-part-1-of-2.html Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA

In this video we explore what it means to be valued by others and by ourselves and how that impacts deeper connections Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:32 How value creates connection 0:50 External factors 2:47 Self-esteem vs self-value 3:58 Tapping to feel valued 16:00 Conclusion To understand how value can create a connection we need to understand how we value others and ourselves We mistakenly determine value by external factors: Money - many cultures place importance on how much you earn or how much money you have. This can cause low self esteem if your income drops or if you don’t have much money. That means that for some people paternity leave or retirement can be a traumatic experience. if you don’t have a lot of money you might consider yourself lesser than someone else conversely if someone has more than you you might place more value on them. Try making a deep connection with someone when in the back of your mind you think you’re inferior because you don’t have as much Appearance-many cultures value beauty - historically beauty has been a method to lift a family out of poverty of their beautiful child marries a wealthy family. Appearance is also how you present yourself. Unknowingly you might be judging a beautiful person to be better than you and a shabby person to be lesser than you. Or you might desire being seen in a fancy location. How easy is it for you to create a meaningful relationship when your subconscious mind is distracted by how you appear to others Social life - maybe you’re the type of person that values who you know or the type of socialising you do. Do find yourself Name dropping like it’s some kind of trophy to know someone famous or wealthy? Do you place high importance on regular outings? Do you place importance on what you do and with who more than on forming connections with people? Achievements - many cultures value how hard you work or how productive you are or how accomplished you. Often we wear exhaustion like a badge of honour. Or we want praise for all the things we do - the menial laborious tasks of household chores or the qualifications and titles we acquire. Do you unconsciously rank people’s value based on how hard they work or their achievements? Do you need recognition or praise for what you do as a measure of your own self worth? It’s tricky to create intimate relationships when you’re busy being productive, or busy earning your worth When you feel that you are not valued you typically have the thought pattern of not enough Not enough time Not enough money Not enough friends Not fit enough Not fast enough Not smart enough Not funny enough In the space of not feeling valued you fear being judged or criticised and from this space it’s hard to share openly with people. You spend more energy guarding yourself from the outside world. Everything is a comparison and you’re often looking at who has more rather than who has less. You believe your outer world a reflection of your value so your subconscious mind is consumed by the constant analysis- wasting so much energy on comparisons and you don’t even know it’s happening! But it leaves very little brain power for creating a fulfilling life. Feeling valued is feeling worthy and deserving from within without external factors. self-value sits on a fluctuating scale depending on mood, environment and competence but mostly is based on our subconscious thought patterns The feeling of being valued is a focus issue - focusing on a mindset of plenty Plenty of money Plenty of good health Plenty of love Increasing self-worth is about accepting and loving all parts of you, forgiving yourself for any harsh self-criticisms and letting go of your self-berating thought patterns. When you value yourself more you open yourself up to seeing the value in others and this creates real connection. #brenebrown #efttapping #tapping #eft Music by Epidemic Sound Tree Shadow Cerulean Skies

Brene Brown says that connection is an exchange where you feel seen, heard and valued. In this 3 part mini-series we will be tapping to feel more seen, more heard and more valued. In this video we explore how feeling unheard impacts your life and we do some tapping to heal the feeling of being not being listened to and not believing that what you have to say is valuable. Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:37 Scenarios of not being heard 2:13 Why you are not listened to 2:37 Why it's important to be heard 4:27 Tapping to be heard 12:57 Tapping in the positive #brenebrown #efttapping #tapping #eft

Brene Brown says that connection is an exchange where you feel seen, heard and valued. In this 3 part mini-series we will be tapping to feel more seen, more heard and more valued. In this video we explore how being unseen impacts your life and we do some tapping to heal the feeling of being invisible or needing to hide yourself from the world. Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:37 Example of not being seen 1:05 Impact of needing to hide 3:00 Why it's important to be seen 3:24 Tapping to be seen 9:37 Tapping in the positive #brenebrown #efttapping #tapping #eft

There's always something we wish our husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend did differently. Often it's something small but really annoying. Sometimes is bigger issues like addiction or abuse. In this video I give you practical tools to help you in your relationship. Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA Chapters: 0:00 Introduction 0:49 Scenario 1 (low impact) 3:45 Scenario 2 (minor addictions) 5:15 Questions to ask yourself 8:02 Scenario 3 (addictions or abuse) 11:45 Visualisation to create lasting change 14:29 Conclusion At the end of the video there is a visualisation that you will be able to recreate by yourself anytime. It will help you to create long lasting change.

We all have unhealthy thought patterns that play out when we are stressed. In this video we address what an unhealthy pattern looks like, how you can identify one and four great tools to break free from a thought pattern that doesn't serve you. Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA Chapters: 0:00 Introduction 0:17 What are unhealthy thought patterns? 0:44 How to identify limiting beliefs 1:47 Tools to break free from unhealthy thought patterns 1:55 Affirmations 3:11 Ask better questions 4:57 Meditation 6:23 Tapping Learn tapping using this video https://youtu.be/GJeFM4_7fXo There's a bunch of unhealthy thought patterns negatively impacting you including criticising ourselves, exaggerating the negative, wishing we had done something different, using the phrase "I should've" and perfectionism. All this causes mental fatigue and greater anxiety. It's often caused by a lack of self-acceptance and lack of self-love. But how do you catch them out? It's about noticing what happens in your body. Your body identifies something is wrong long before your brain catches up. When you feel back ache, butterflies in your stomach, a head ache or some discomfort in your body, ask yourself what is creating the anxiety or stress. Writing things down helps to identify this. Are you wishing you could change the past? Wishing you could change someone? wishing you could change yourself? wishing for a particular future? Notice if you have had these thoughts before. Observation of your thoughts give you the opportunity to shake out of the pattern. Once you identify the pattern you can use different tools to break free from it. 1. Affirmation - in your quiet time use positive statements to train your brain to think positively. Say things like "I am who I am and I accept all of me" or "I love myself" or "I accept myself". If you are uncomfortable saying these phrases then say "I am open to..." or "I am ready to..." or "I am willing to..." like "I am open to loving myself" or "I am willing to accept myself". This primes your mind and gets your subconscious mind to open up to loving yourself and accepting yourself and valuing yourself. Training your mind to think positively reduces the intensity when you are having an unhealthy thought pattern session. 2. Ask better questions. Instead of asking yourself negative questions like "What's wrong with me?" or "What went wrong?" or "Why didn't I do..." When wallowing in your pain learn to ask better questions that life you up and make you feel good. Ask "what did work about that?" or "What helped me in that situation?" When thinking about the future ask "Why" questions. "Why will everything work out?" or "Why will things work in my favour?" or "Why will I feel better about that?" Your mind loves solving puzzles so it will work her time to answer these great questions. This is a great retraining your brain trick. 3. Meditation The next tool is part of your brain gym toolkit already. Just as you work out your muscles so you can carry heavy boxes or participate in life more fully, you can use meditation to control your thoughts.Meditation is a gym work out for the mind. It strengthens your ability to focus. You can focus on a candle, or a humming noise or your breath. Focus on anything monotonous for 15 minutes. This trains your subconscious mind to believe that you have control. So when you are spiralling in a whirlwind of negative thought patterns you have the mental control to snap out of negativity and deliberately focus on affirmations or better questions, or even to stop thinking at all! Just clear your mind. 4. Tapping The 4th tool is tapping. It's easy, effective and works super well when you are stuck. It snaps you out of dark places into a mode of possibility. Here is an example of tapping for an unhealthy thought pattern "I'm ugly" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S6qJEZHIZiM

Blame is a destructive learned behaviour that we use as a defence mechanism to protect ourselves from shame or punishment. It is a behaviour we learn as a child to help us cope with the world. Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:23 Why we blame 1:12 The pattern of blame 2:30 The cost of blame 2:58 The circuit breaker 4:03 Conclusion As an adult we use blame to deflect pain but it has become a normal state of mind to cope with judgement, worry, blame and most significantly to cope with an inferiority complex. The ability to blame someone else allows us to artificially inflate our ego so that we feel superior to someone. Blame eats into our day-to-day life because it is a background process using up energy in our subconscious mind as our efficient brain looks out for opportunities to blame other people and find fault with things. Precious energy is spent on blaming and little is left for the enjoyment of living a life we love. Using a circuit breaker we are able to break the pattern of blame. The key is in noticing that we are blaming something or someone. The hardest part is to ask the question "What am I afraid of?" This helps us to get authentic about what the real problem is. Knowing the real problem gives us clarity and this clarity affords us better solutions than to just blame. Becoming faster and noticing a blame situation creates new subconscious patterns that stop you midway through a blame game and eventually prevents you from blaming in the first place.

#selfbelief #trustyourself #intuition This video explains what it means to believe in yourself and how to enhance your self-belief. Your self-belief is based on trusting yourself. Newsletter signup https://rossanneclay.com/newsletter/ Online learning https://rossanneclay.com/shop Contact support@rossanneclay.com Spotify Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/3J4ZXhW... For a support community https://discord.gg/ZMemVjgA Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:17 Definition of self-belief 0:44 Integrity 1:30 Support 2:08 Safety 3:04 Intuition 4:29 Conclusion Being able to trust the words coming out of your mouth is the first step. Do what you say you will do. If you know you can't fulfil on small things, for example, that you will not be somewhere on time, then you are training your subconscious mind to not believe that you honour your word, and so you will not believe you can do big things either. Ensure you are supported and you support others. Avoid scenarios where you are too needy or where you are exhausted from giving too much. Accept yourself more so that you feel safe and secure within. Then you will feel safe to express yourself fully. Use your intuition to guide you to your next best steps.