Matthew Kelly

Is It Time to Move On? The #1 Reason People Don’t Break Up When They Should! - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “The #1 reason people don’t break up with the person they are dating when they should can be best understood through an economic theory. Have you ever heard the saying, don’t throw good money after bad? This is called the Sunk Cost Fallacy. The Sunk Cost Fallacy describes the human tendency to continue with an endeavor we have invested time, effort, money, and energy into, even if all the evidence suggests that our investment is a bad investment. Have you ever heard someone say, “I already started, so I might as well keep going!” Or perhaps you have said it to yourself. The problem is, if you are going the wrong way, it doesn’t matter how far you go, or how much you persevere, or wish, hope, dream or pray, the wrong way never leads to the right destination. It’s a psychological bias that results in irrational choices. Human beings are rational, but we don’t always behave rationally, and it’s important to remember that about ourselves and other people. Deciding to continue to date someone when you are unhappy, when you have plenty of evidence that things are not going to change, because you’ve invested months or years of your life with them is a mistake. It’s time to move on. Don’t think of it as wasted time, think of it as preparation for the best relationship of your life.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion #ThoughtLeader

10 Signs You Should Break Up 10 Signs You Are Dating the Wrong Person - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “Dating can be challenging and exhausting. So, when you have found someone, it is easy to overlook things that shouldn’t be overlooked, because the idea of going back out in search of your someone can seem daunting. But the reality is only your someone has a chance of bringing about a meaningful and sustainable relationship. Here are 10 signs you are dating the wrong person: 1. You’re not excited about your future together. 2. You can’t have fun doing really ordinary things like going grocery shopping or running errands. 3. The person you are dating is unwilling or unable to be with you when you are sad. 4. You argue about who is right, rather than what is right. In relationships, we shouldn’t be against each other, we should be together against the problem we are facing as a couple, or that one of us is facing. 5. You both refuse to confront the obvious. 6. The person you are dating doesn’t share your values. 7. Your partner is incapable of apologizing. 8. You’re embarrassed to introduce your partner to important people in your life. 9. You don’t enjoy just sitting and talking. 10. You communicate your concerns, but nothing changes. In the next video we will explore… The #1 Reason People Don’t Break Up When They Should!” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion #ThoughtLeader

Arguments Matter: The Key to Healthy Conflict & What to Avoid - Matthew Kelly - 60 Second Wisdom Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “One of the most important aspects of a relationship is learning how you argue. Arguments matter. Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. Many of the worst relationships are those without conflict, because often both people are harboring unspoken discontent and growing resentment. Arguments tell a lot about a relationship. What two people argue about, where they argue, and how they argue reveals a lot about who people are and what they value. And that is true whether the relationship involves a marriage, a friendship, two colleagues at work, or brothers and sisters. Arguments are caused by differing opinions, unmet expectations, converging desires, and colliding personal preferences. The key to dynamic relationships is healthy conflict. Healthy conflict is when we argue for something rather than against each other. And the best arguments are when we are arguing about how to make our relationship the-best-version-of-itself. If you want your relationship to be the-best-version-of-itself, learn to argue in a healthy way.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #60SecondWisdom #BestVersion #ThoughtLeader

What’s Stealing Your Energy? 21 Habits That Are DRAINING Your Energy! - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe See the full list on my blog at MatthewKelly.com: https://www.matthewkelly.com/post/these-habits-drain-your-energy Video Transcript: “What’s draining your energy? We all have habits that drain our energy. Some of them we are aware of and some of them we participate in unconsciously. Here are 21 things that could be draining your energy. Pick three to work on. And remember, you can see the whole list at MatthewKelly.com. We publish the transcripts to all my YouTube videos on my blog. 1. Negativity. 2. Bad posture. 3. Not drinking enough water. 4. Lack of direction and priorities. 5. Forgetting to breathe deeply. 6. Sugar, Caffeine, and Alcohol. 7. Not taking a break. 8. Checking email first thing in the morning. 9. Taking things personally that are not personal. 10. Social media. 11. The news. 12. Worrying about things you cannot influence. 13. Sleeping too much. 14. Poor diet choices. 15. Complaining. 16. Noise. 17. Light. 18. Fear or anxiety. 19. Lack of exercise or too much exercise. 20. Perfectionism. 21. Making a big deal out of little things. 22. Skipping breakfast. 23. Never taking a real vacation. 24. Alcohol before bed. 25. Checking email before bed. 26. Your attitude. 27. Clutter and disorganization. 28. Too much food or not enough food. 29. Stress. 30. Lack of self-esteem. 31. Saying yes to things you know you should say no to. 32. Half finishing tasks. 33. Gossiping. 34. Toxic people and unhealthy relationships 35. Trying to please others constantly. 36. Ruminating on the past. 37. Not moving enough. 38. Resentment. 39. Worrying about what people think about you. 40. Watching TV that drains you emotionally and beats you up psychologically. 41. Planning too far into the future. Okay, that was 41, not 21, I got carried away. But here’s the thing. Everyday there are an unlimited number of people and activities out to steal your energy if you let them. Don’t let them. Have a great day… and remember, don’t just be yourself, be the-best-version-of-yourself!” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion #ThoughtLeader

9 Ways You’re Wasting Your Life 9 Ways You’re WASTING Your Precious 24 Hours - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “Time is precious. We all know that. It’s one of the most limited resources we have. Everybody gets 24 hours. It doesn’t matter who you are, what you have, or who you know, you still just get 24 hours. But have you ever noticed that some people get so much more accomplished with their 24 hours. There are two reasons for that. 1. They don’t waste time. 2. They know how to manage their energy. So, let’s take a look at 9 ways you may be wasting your precious 24 hours: 1. Procrastinating. 2. Not scheduling ”no-interruption” focus time. 3. Answering the phone when you don’t know who it is. 4. Doing things 12 times instead of once. If there is something you do every month, schedule it for the same time every month, rather than having to schedule it 12 times every year. 5. Scrolling thorough social media or constantly updating yours, or both. 6. Consuming the news. 7. Gossiping. 8. Watching soul poisoning crap on TV. 9. Arguing with people who never listen. Pick one and resolve to stop wasting time doing that starting right now. Next, let’s take a look at what’s draining your energy.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion #ThoughtLeader

New York Times Bestselling Author Matthew Kelly Interviews @ClayWalker Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Introduction 0:00 How much coffee does Clay Walker drink? 1:28 What is Clay Walker’s favorite movie? 1:55 Where is Clay Walker’s favorite place to play a concert? 2:22 Clay Walker’s early life - getting his first guitar. 4:08 His first concert. 6:34 Clay Walker’s first trip to Nashville. 8:20 He decides to chase his dream & not go to college. 12:21 Who are Clay Walker’s musical heroes? 15:43 How Clay Walker hones his craft. 17:25 Releasing his first album. 21:07 How family influences his music. 24:47 How Clay Walker got his name. 27:01 How he tells stories in his music. 27:33 Clay Walker on tour for the first time. 30:46 What it’s like being in a tour bus with a band. 32:54 The pursuit of excellence. 38:56 Clay Walker’s favorite songs to play. 43:31 Clay Walker’s writing process. 45:28 Life-Changing moments in his life. 52:42 Advice for someone at the peak of their career. 55:19 His favorite thing about being a father. 59:20 Clay Walker’s advice for raising amazing children. 1:01:52 Advice for new husbands and fathers. 1:04:59 Advice for newlyweds. 1:09:19 Clay Walker’s struggles with MS. 1:12:37 Advice for someone diagnosed with MS. 1:21:27 Jesus Was A Country Boy. 1:26:02 The strangest conversation he’s ever had with God. 1:31:28 How he makes a difference - The Clay Walker Classic. 1:38:32 Clay Walker’s favorite hobbies. 1:42:33 Clay Walker: investor and entrepreneur. 1:47:49 If he could put together an all-star band… 1:51:55 What was the best album ever produced? 1:54:03 Clay Walker’s favorite songs to perform live. 1:55:30 Conclusion. 1:58:38 If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion #ThoughtLeader

Are You a Lover of Wisdom? - The World Needs More Philosophers - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “My son Walter asked me once, “What is a philosopher?” “A philosopher is a lover of wisdom,” I explained to him. Over the years this phrase has become a favorite saying in the family. One of the children might ask, “Why are we talking about this… or reading this… or doing this?” And I will reply, because your mother and I are raising you to be… and they will reply, “Lovers of wisdom.” So, let me ask you, are you a lover of wisdom? It would seem to me that whatever good hopes and dreams we have for our country and the world, we are all going to need more wisdom to bring those hopes and dreams about. The place we give wisdom in our lives and in our culture is highly predictive of the future. The sad reality is that wisdom often doesn’t have much of a place in our lives or society. Opinions, agendas, and preferences all seem to be more loved and celebrated than wisdom at this time. Are you a lover of wisdom or are you in love with your opinions, agendas, and preferences? What area of your life is most in need of wisdom? In what way are you being nudged, called, encouraged to adopt the path of the wise at this time in your life? The world needs more lovers of wisdom, and so, we have a decision to make. Are we going to be lovers of our opinions, agendas, and personal preferences? Or are we going to become lovers of wisdom? The future of everything depends on how we answer this question.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion #ThoughtLeader

The Matt Birk Interview with Matthew Kelly New York Times bestselling author Matthew Kelly interviews Super Bowl Champion Matt Birk. @Baltimore Ravens @Minnesota Vikings Introduction 0:00 Who is Matt Birk? 0:55 Growing up in Minnesota 3:13 The world needs linemen too 4:03 Matt Birk goes to Harvard 6:26 A lesson Matt Birk wants to pass on to his children 11:15 Why we need work 13:50 How Matt Birk views faith 14:30 How Matt Birk met his wife 19:56 How God manifests in everyday life 21:24 How to make great decisions 23:41 Matt Birk's favorite memory as a Catholic 26:04 NFL draft day 29:21 How football help Matt Birk grow in faith 35:32 Showing appreciation for supporting roles 39:04 How did football help prepare Matt Birk for marriage and fatherhood? 42:18 Dealing with critics and blame 47:30 The value of discipline - overcoming talent gaps 50:07 Just show up 53:37 Worry and uncertainty as Matt Birk becomes a free agent 57:20 What does it mean to be the Minnesota Vikings Man of the Year? 1:03:05 Transition from the Minnesota Vikings to the Baltimore Ravens 1:07:09 Matt Birk's thoughts on playing in the Super Bowl 1:09:30 Is it harder to be a graceful winner, or a graceful loser? 1:17:39 What does Matt Birk miss about football? 1:19:35 If Matt Birk could do it all again, what would he do differently? 1:20:57 What are some of Matt Birk's favorite books? 1:23:26 What's it like having 8 kids? 1:25:13 How to realign your life with your priorities 1:35:56 Matt Birk's on pro-life issues 1:38:45 Why Matt Birk didn't go to the White House after the Super Bowl 1:42:09 Why Matt Birk helped open a Catholic School 1:45:10 Matt Birk's advice to the next generation 1:47:52 Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKell... https://www.matthewkelly.com The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #60SecondWisdom #BestVersion #ThoughtLeader

What Matters Most? The Essence of Life - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “We hurry about our daily lives, busying ourselves with a million things, and in the midst of all this it is easy to overlook what matters most. Love is the pinnacle of the human experience. The giving and receiving of love is the highest calling of the human person. At first it may seem that the giving of love is the difficult part, but for many of us, opening our hearts to receive the love of others can be the greater challenge. We should busy ourselves with giving and receiving love. And as we can only control the giving, and not the receiving, we should order our lives so that we are preoccupied with giving love wherever we go and to whomever we meet. Certainly we have to work and pay our bills and study and pass our exams. All these things we do in order to survive, but love is what we survive for. Love is what life is really all about. Life is not about what sort of shoes you wear. Life isn’t about whether or not you live on the right street, or whether you live in a big, fancy house. Life’s not about what sort of car you drive. It’s not about what football team you cheer for, or whether your football team wins, or whether you made the football team, or might make the football team, or what position you played on the football team. Life’s not about what college you went to, or might go to, or what college your kids go to. Life’s not about these things. Life’s not about money. It’s not about what sort of position or what sort of power you have. It’s not about whether you’re famous. It’s not about whether or not you vacation in all the right places every year. Life’s not about the labels on the clothes you wear. Life is not about these things. Life’s not about who you’ve dated or who you’re dating. Life’s not about who you know or who your parents are. And it’s not even about the grades you get in school, what company you work for, or what your job is. Life is simply not about these things. Life is about love. It’s about who you love and who you hurt. Life’s about how you love yourself and how you hurt yourself. Life’s about how you love and hurt the people close to you, and it’s about how you love and hurt the people who cross your path for just a moment, unexpectedly, one rainy afternoon. Life is about love.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion #ThoughtLeader

Have You Fallen Out of Love? The Essence of Love - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “Stephen Covey tells a great story about the essence of love. On this particular day he had been presenting a series of talks about proactivity, which is, basically, the idea that “as human beings we are responsible for our lives. Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to values. We have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.” After his presentation, Covey was approached by a man who said, “Stephen, I like what you’re saying. But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I’m really worried. My wife and I just don’t have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don’t love her anymore and she doesn’t love me. What can I do?” “The feeling isn’t there anymore?” Covey asked. “That’s right,” the man reaffirmed. “And we have three children we’re really concerned about. What do you suggest?” “Love her,” Covey replied. “I told you, the feeling just isn’t there anymore,” the man insisted. “Love her,” Covey affirmed. “You don’t understand. The feeling of love just isn’t there.” “Then love her.” Covey continued. “If the feeling isn’t there, that’s a good reason to love her.” “But how do you love when you don’t love?” the man said seemingly perplexed. “My friend, ‘love’ is a verb. Love—the feeling—is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate her. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?” I met Covey about a decade after he first told this story and he was wondering what happened to this man and his marriage. Love is not a feeling. From when we are very young, through powerful mediums such as movies and music, we are conditioned to believe that love is a feeling. The result of this conditioning is that we allow our actions to be dictated by our feelings. Rather than asking ourselves whether a particular person is going to help us become our best self, we simply allow our feelings to take us wherever they will at any particular moment. And I don’t know whether you’ve noticed it, but feelings are one of the most inconsistent aspects of the human person. Our feelings shouldn’t direct our actions and our lives. Our actions should be driven by our hopes and values; above all, they should be driven by our essential purpose to become the-best-version-of-ourselves. People who are driven by feelings are dangerous. They are undisciplined, inconsistent, and unreliable. But people who are driven by their values and a clear understanding of their essential purpose are disciplined, consistent, and reliable. So if you want to be surrounded by people who are inconsistent and unreliable, choose your friends, your colleagues, your employees, and your significant other on the basis of feelings. But if you want to be surrounded by people who are consistent and reliable, choose friends, colleagues, employees, and a significant other who live value-driven lives—they will help you become the-best-version-of-yourself. Love is a choice, not a feeling. Feelings come and go, and if we choose to base our most important relationships on how we feel at any moment, we are in for a rough and rocky journey. Love is a verb, not a noun. Love is something we do, not something that happens to us.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion #ThoughtLeader

Do You Feel (UN)Appreciated? What to Do When You Feel Unappreciated - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “Do you feel appreciated? It’s horrible to feel taken for granted. When our efforts go unacknowledged, we can feel invisible, unloved, and unappreciated. And yet, the great majority of people feel unappreciated by at least one of the most important people in their lives. So, what can you do if you feel unappreciated? There are an unlimited number of ways to express appreciation, so the first thing is to explore your assumption. They may not be expressing their appreciation in words, but they may be expressing it in other ways. If you feel unappreciated, take a moment and consider if they are expressing their appreciation in a way you have not considered. If you still believe someone important in your life does not appreciate you, speak up. It is difficult, but essential for your mental health and happiness. There is always the chance that a person is unaware that you don’t feel appreciated. And if someone you love felt that way toward you, wouldn’t you want to know? Simply by drawing their attention to it, you give them the chance to point out the ways they do express their appreciation and provide the opportunity for them to express their appreciation more going forward. If you feel taken for granted, if you don’t feel appreciated, speak up, share how you are feeling. One of the reasons it is so important to say something is because if you do not process these feelings of being unappreciated in a healthy way they will almost certainly turn into feelings of anger and resentment. It’s not fair to you or to the other person to harbor these feelings in secret. It is of course possible that none of that will work. Unfortunately, some people only begin to appreciate who you are and what you do for them if you stop. Sometimes you have to take a break and sometimes you have to stop forever, depending on how dysfunctional the situation is. But when the situation is one of chronic disregard and lack of appreciation, stop doing what you feel is unappreciated for a day, a week, a month, as long as it takes to get the person’s honest attention. Another mistake we are in danger of making when we don’t feel appreciated is to focus on those feelings and forget to express our appreciation for others. You know how it feels when you go to great effort and nobody notices. It can be incredibly disheartening. Express your appreciation to the people in your life and the strangers that pass through your life. There are hundreds of ways to do it. Find a way that works for you. Some people like to speak their appreciation, others are more comfortable writing letters. A kind word of encouragement, a hug that lasts a little longer than usual, a small gift, a note, buying someone lunch, small acts of service, spending quality time with people, are all ways to signal to people “I see you. I appreciate you. I am grateful for the ways you make my life a little easier and enjoyable.” And one last thing… Be specific when you express your appreciation. Rather than saying, “I appreciate all you do for me” say “One of the things I really appreciate is how you…” Name something specific that you appreciate.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion #ThoughtLeader

“There Must Be More To Life?” Reclaim: What Do You Need to Reclaim? - Matthew Kelly Blog: 100 Aspects of Life and Self to Reclaim - https://www.matthewkelly.com/post/100-aspects-of-life-self-to-reclaim Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion

Stress? Worry? Anxiety? Understanding Anxiety, Stress, Regrets, Worry, and Violated Boundaries - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “A psychology professor walked around his classroom full of students holding a glass of water with his arm straightened out to the side. He asked his students, “How heavy is this glass of water?” The students started to shout out guesses–ranging anywhere from four ounces to one pound. The professor replied, “The absolute weight of this glass isn’t what matters while I’m holding it. Rather, it’s the amount of time that I hold onto it that makes an impact. “If I hold it for, say, two minutes, it doesn’t feel like much of a burden. If I hold it for an hour, its weight may become more apparent as my muscles begin to tire. If I hold it for an entire day–or week–my muscles will cramp and I’ll likely feel numb or paralyzed with pain, making me feel miserable and unable to think about anything aside from the pain that I’m in. In all of these cases, the actual weight of the glass will remain the same, but the longer I clench onto it, the heavier it feels to me and the more burdensome it is to hold.” The class understood and shook their heads in agreement. The professor continued to say, “This glass of water can represent a lot of things. It can represent the worries and stresses that you carry around with you every day. It can represent regret that you feel over things that you wish you did or didn’t do. And it can be the burden you carry of boundaries violated again and again and again. If you think about them for a few minutes and then put them aside, it’s not a heavy burden to bear. If you think about them a little longer, you will start to feel the impacts of the stress. If you carry these things with you all day, you will become incapacitated, prohibiting you from doing anything else until you let them go.” It’s time to return to a right relationship with your worries, your stresses, your past, the people in your life. Don’t give them your entire attention while your life is passing you by.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion

The Biggest Obstacle to Prayer The Purpose and Goal of Prayer - Be Still and Know that I am God: Part Two - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “The goal and purpose of prayer is union with God. The great saints and mystics of every age spoke of the ecstasy they experience when they were in this state of connection with God. They described it as being like no other joy this life has to offer. But most people never experience the mystical ecstasy of prayer. Why do you think that is? Do you think those mystics and saints were God’s favorites? I don’t. Do you believe that they had those experiences because they were better people? It has always been taught that those experiences were freely given by God and not the result of some merit that some people earn and others don’t. Do you believe that you could experience the ecstasy of prayer? I do. I believe you can, and I believe God wants you to experience the ecstasy of prayer. You are a human being… delicate composition and body and soul, carefully linked by the will and the intellect. Jesus said, “The kingdom of God is within you.” And we believe that the Holy Spirit resides within us. Your soul is very still. Your conscious mind is always and constantly being distracted. The first thing we need to do when we come to prayer is to allow the conscious mind to settle, to become still, to rest. Now imagine that this hand represents the soul. The soul is always very still, like the deepest parts of the ocean, it is astoundingly still even in the midst of our frantic and frenetic lives. Next, imagine this other hand represents the conscious mind. Always being distracted. The first challenge when we come to prayer is to still the mind. To slow down, calm down, be still and quiet. This is what makes union with God possible and the ecstasy of prayer possible. Most people don’t have a chance, because we pray how we live. “Listen us God, your servant is speaking… I want this and this and this, and why did you let that happen, and if you do that again I’m never coming to church again. Have a good day God.” When we pray like that, has our mind slowed down? Absolutely not. In fact there is a chance it has become even more distracted than at many times during our days. This is why people stop praying. Because they have never really prayed. They have never experienced the joy and the peace and the ecstasy of prayer. They pray like they live – frenetically and frantically – and they pray that way for a year, two years, a decade or two, and then they stop praying and spend the rest of their lives believing that prayer doesn’t work, etc. But tragically, they have never experienced the gifts of prayer. It’s time to start praying differently. Time to start living how we pray. This allows us to become aware of God’s presence… he doesn’t show up when we are still. The passage doesn’t say, be still and God will show up. He is always and already present, but we are unaware of his presence, and unaware of most of the ways he makes himself present in our lives. The stillness and the quiet allows us to become aware of his powerful presence within us, in the world, in history, etc. Let me repeat what I said in Part One of this series… It is incredibly difficult just to be still. But I firmly believe that if we will sit still enough and quiet enough for long enough God will reveal himself to us in amazing ways. But I don’t want you to take my word for it, I want you to try it. Put it to the test. Find a quiet place and a chair that is comfortable, but not a comfy chair that you are going to sink into. Sit still, perfectly still, and quiet, for as long as you can… and see what happens!” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion

The Power of Stillness Be Still and Know that I am God: Part One - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: ““Be Still and Know that I am God.” This is one of the most powerful lines in the Bible. It comes from Psalm 46: 10 and I find it beautiful and compelling, fascinating and challenging. The first thing that strikes me is that God didn’t say, “Be quiet and know that I am God” or “Be yourself and know that I am God” or any of the infinite number of other possibilities. What this tells me is that movement in excess prevents us from knowing God. Rushing here and there all the time is an obstacle to knowing God. That’s a problem, because it is so easy to fall into the frantic and frenetic way of life in today’s world. Are our lives frenetic and frantic? I think the great majority of people would say yes. And that’s a problem. Why? Well, let’s take a look at the definitions of these two words. The definition of frantic is: wild or distraught with fear, anxiety, or other emotion. The definition of frenetic is: fast and energetic in a rather wild and uncontrolled way. Is this really how we want to live our lives? I think the answer for most people is no. But we need get still enough for long enough to recognize the insanity of our ways. It is incredibly difficult just to be still. But I firmly believe that if we will sit still enough and quiet enough for long enough God will reveal himself to us in amazing ways. But I don’t want you to take my word for it, I want you to try it. Put it to the test. Find a quiet place and a chair that is comfortable, but not a comfy chair that you are going to sink into. Sit still, perfectly still, and quiet, for as long as you can… and see what happens!” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion

Not Enough Hours In The Day? 6 Ways to Reduce Multi-Tasking and Avoid Burnout - Matthew Kelly - 60 Second Wisdom Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “Do you feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day? Ever feel like you are exhausted but didn’t get anything done? Maybe it’s time to start practicing the good old-fashioned wisdom of doing one thing at a time. There is much joy to be found in starting and completing a task. Constantly switching from one task to another, also known as multi-tasking, is exhausting, stressful, and one of the leading causes of anxiety in our lives. Here are six ways to reduce multi-tasking in your life: 1. Make a list of things to accomplish today. 2. Work through the list one task at a time. Focus on accomplishing each item until completed. 3. Check your email, voicemail, and text messages only between tasks. 4. Block notifications and silence your phone. 5. Create an environment that is conducive to what is most important. 6. Take regular breaks. Nobody can concentrate endlessly. It’s time to stop rapidly bouncing between tasks and focus on one thing at a time. It’s time to start enjoying the benefits of doing one thing at a time. Try it. It’s an amazing feeling.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #60SecondWisdom #BestVersion

The Power of Single Tasking - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “The fastest way to do many things is to do them one at a time. The ability to focus for extended periods of time is a very powerful skill, and one that is become increasingly rare in our society. People who are able to focus on one thing at a time have a major advantage in a world crippled by multi-tasking. Single-tasking is a skill worth nurturing. The power of single-tasking is that it forces us to decide what matters most and give it priority. This unleashes positive effects on every area of our lives. Here are some of the benefits of single-tasking. People who focus on one task at a time are happier, less anxious, more productive, have more energy and enthusiasm, are more fulfilled, less stressed, more creative, more disciplined, have longer attention spans, are better communicators, and they have better relationships. What exactly is single-tasking? The practice of dedicating oneself to a given task and minimizing potential interruptions and distractions for the appropriate period of time. Multi-tasking is ruining our brains, destroying our lives, and undermining our relationships. Single-tasking is the key to doing your best work, improving your relationships, and eliminating much of the stress and anxiety from your life. Multi-tasking is a temptation and a myth. The busier you are, the more you have to do, the more you should employ single-tasking. Try doing one thing at a time, through to completion. You’ll be amazed just how powerful this simple principle is. Start unleashing the power of single-tasking in your life today.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion

Feeling Anxious? Multi-Tasking is a Myth - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “Have you been feeling anxious lately? Multitasking may be the cause. The truth is, there is no such thing as multi-tasking. We may think we are doing two things at once, but what we are actually doing is switching rapidly from one task and another. It is simply impossible to do two things at once. The human mind can only focus on one thing at a time. This bouncing back and forth between tasks (that we call multitasking) is massively inefficient. You actually get less done and the quality of what you get done suffers. What we call multi-tasking leads to more mistakes, less creativity, lower productivity, and is one of the main causes of anxiety in our lives today. The sad thing is multitasking has taken over our lives. A study conducted by Harvard Psychologists discovered that on average people spend 47% of their waking hours thinking about something other than what they are actually doing. This includes the time we spend with the people we love the most. On average, people spend 40% of their day multitasking with email and instant messages alone. Most people cannot go for more than six minutes without checking their messages. Studies have found that the average person switches tasks every 3 minutes. Mark Twain observed, “It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.” Multi-tasking is a myth. So now, let’s take a look at the power of single-tasking.“ If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion

Want to Feel Amazing Again? 5 Ways to Increase Your Enthusiasm - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “When was the last time you felt amazing? Trauma, sickness, anxiety, depression, loss—so many things rob us of our enthusiasm for life. And after difficult seasons in our lives, it is natural to wonder if we will ever feel amazing again. Here are five concrete things you can do to infuse your daily life with enthusiasm: 1. Prioritize your legitimate needs. Diet, exercise, sleep, and prayer all increase your capacity for enthusiasm. Take a walk today, make a healthy meal, get to bed early, and watch your enthusiasm begin to grow! 2. Schedule 15 minutes every day to do something you love doing. Why are children so consistently enthusiastic? Because they do so many things every day just for the joy of it. You don’t have to spend all day doing something you love, start small, fifteen minutes a day. 3. Say “no” to people, activities, and things that drain your energy and enthusiasm. Develop an awareness of who and what drains your enthusiasm. Protect your enthusiasm by learning to say, “no.” 4. Spend time with enthusiastic people. We rise or fall to the level of our friends in most things. Who are the most enthusiastic people you know? Are you spending enough time with those people? Your enthusiasm is probably the average of the five people you spend the most time with. If you wish to raise your level of enthusiasm in life, surround yourself with enthusiastic people. 5. Dream. Your dreams are your dreams for a reason. Our dreams animate us, they literally breathe new life into us. So, what are your dreams and what are you doing about them? Start pursuing your dreams and they will fill you with new passion, energy, enthusiasm, and vitality. It’s time to rediscover your enthusiasm and flourish. And just remember, everyone who really cares about you wants you to flourish.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion

The Fountain of Youth: The Secret to Staying Young? - Matthew Kelly - 60 Second Wisdom Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “Do you want to know the secret of youth? I met a guy last year and he was so full of enthusiasm. I thought to myself, “This is the most enthusiastic 65-year-old I have ever met.” Turned out he was 87-years-old. Enthusiasm keeps us young. Enthusiasm is the fountain of youth. Surround yourself with people, experiences, videos, and books, that fill you with enthusiasm. Avoid people, experiences, videos, and books, that steal your enthusiasm. If your enthusiasm was a valuable material possession, you wouldn’t let someone walk into your house and steal it. So why let someone on television steal your enthusiasm? Why willingly agree to go to an event that is going to steal your enthusiasm for life? Wake up each morning and do something that stokes the flames of enthusiasm within you. Then guard the flame of enthusiasm throughout the day. Enthusiasm is the secret to staying young.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #60SecondWisdom #BestVersion

Have You Been Hurt By A Narcissist? Recovering from a Relationship with a Narcissist - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “If you’re trying to recover from a relationship with a Narcissist, the most important thing for you to understand us that You Never Had a Chance. It is a truth that is both tragically sad and amazingly liberating. Sad because you have and are suffering. Liberating because it proves that there is absolutely nothing you could have done to prevent this relationship from failing. It is not your fault. The first truth about being in a relationship with a Narcissist: You never had a chance. I set this conversation in the past, because I hope you have ended your relationship with the Narcissist in your life. But the truth is you may work with him, you may have children with her, and even if you never have to see or speak to your Narcissist ever again, that person will always be in your life. I’m sorry, but that’s just the cold, harsh, truth. So, let’s put it out there and deal with it. There is no point pretending. Narcissists have plagued my life. They have hurt me in ways I didn’t even know was possible. It is dizzying how quickly a Narcissist can move from charm to harm, and back to charm again… and then pretend that the harm never took place… or that it was your fault. Just don’t be drawn into the state of mind that gets you thinking you could have done something to save that relationship. Remember the first truth about being in a relationship with a Narcissist: You never had a chance. Understanding this is the first step to recovering from a relationship with a Narcissist.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion

9 Ways to Tell if Someone is a Narcissist - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “The term Narcissist is definitely overused in society today. If someone doesn’t like another person or get their way, they are quick to say, “He is such a Narcissist!” or “She is such a Narcissist!” At the same time, it does seem that the self-referential nature of our culture lends itself to more and more Narcissistic behavior, and that the number of Narcissists is increasing in society. We all have Narcistic tendencies, but that’s different to being a Narcissist. So how do you know if someone is a certifiable Narcissist – that is someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) – or just immature, self-absorbed, or selfish? Experts seem to agree that as many as one-third of the population are Narcissists, but it is quite rare for someone to be officially diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The Diagnostic Manual for Mental Disorders (5th Edition) states that in order for a person to be diagnosed with NPD, that person must exhibit five or more of these nine criteria, and at least one aspect of their life must be impaired by these behaviors. The nine criteria are: 1. Exaggerates own importance 2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence or ideal romance 3. Believes he or she is special and can only be understood by other special people or institutions 4. Requires constant attention and admiration from others 5. Has unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment 6. Takes advantage of others to reach his or her own goals 7. Disregards the feelings of others, lacks empathy 8. Is often envious of others or believes other people are envious of him or her 9. Shows arrogant behaviors and attitudes If you are being abused at the hands of a Narcissist, recovering from the abuse of a Narcissist, or someone you love is in one of these situations a great place to start is by taking inventory of the nine criteria above. I would encourage you to do it on two levels. First, just yes or no, answer from the gut, “Does he exaggerates his own importance?” Yes or no. Don’t over think it. “Is she preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence or ideal romance?” Yes or no. Work your way through the list and see how many of the criteria your Narcissist displays. Remember, someone can be a Narcissist and not technically have NPD. So just because your Narcissist only displays three of the criteria doesn’t mean he or she is not a Narcissist. Next, go back through the list of nine criteria and identify specific examples of where you personally witnessed that behavior and write them down. Don’t make excuses for the Narcissist in your life. It’s amazing how many excuses we make for Narcissists. Earlier I used the word abuse. How did you respond when you heard that word? It’s amazing how often people will say, “Well, it’s not really abuse.” That’s why Narcissist’s get away with all they get away with for so long, because we downplay it, pretend it isn’t serious, and make excuses for them. We say things like, “She had a really tough childhood.” So? A lot of people have tough childhoods and don’t grow up to take it out on others by abusing them verbally, emotionally, psychologically, or physically. Narcissism is real. We all have at least one Narcissist in our lives, and it is past time that we started to understand what drives them and how they are impacting our emotional health and our lives in general.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion

10 Things to Teach Your Child About Money - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “We need money and use money every day, but it seems nobody every receives an adequate education about how to earn, save, give, spend, and invest money. Most people regret not having learnt more about money earlier in their lives. The majority of adults wish they were more knowledgeable about personal finances, and only 57 percent of Americans are considered financially literate. When is the right time to talk to your child about money? Now and always. 1. The First Rule. Spend less than you make. This simple rule will save you so much stress and suffering. Live moderately. Control your expenses. Live below your means, all wise men and women do. 2. Become a Saver. Save 10% of everything you ever earn. If you do you will be financially independent one day, and that is a beautiful thing. Start today. Save 10% of every dollar that comes your way from chores, birthday gifts, etc. Nobody ever regretted developing the habit of saving. 3. Buying. Before you buy anything, reflect on how hard you had to work to earn the money you are about to spend. Don’t confuse wants with needs. The person who needs the least has the most. 4. Invest. Invest first in yourself. The number one way wealthy people invested in themselves long before they were wealthy is by reading books. 86% of the wealthy love reading versus 26% of the poor. If you want to be financially independent someday become a reader. Commit yourself to learning more about money, personal finances, and the wisdom of wealth every year for the rest of your life. Learn how to put your money to work, so that your savings work for you even when you are sleeping. 5. Debt is a form of slavery. It is one of the major forms of stress in many people’s lives. Debt doesn’t solve problems, it creates them. You cannot borrow your way to happiness, wealth, or success. 6. Compound Interest. Learn about the power of compound interest. If you save $5 a day every day of your life to the age of 65 and invest it at a compounding rate of 9%, you will have over seven million dollars. 7. The Best Things. The best things in life really are free. It’s true. Never lose sight of it. Here are a handful of examples: true love, Sundays, laughter, friendship, work you love doing, nature, hugs and kisses, waking up to a new day, feeling healthy, rain, watching the sunset. 8. Overspending. Emotionally healthy people consume less than emotionally insecure and unhealthy people. Never buy anything to make yourself feel good. Overspending is a disease. If you get sick with the disease, get help immediately. Don’t wait until it takes over your life, destroys your relationships, and make you physically sick. If you are not free to say no, you are not free to say yes. 9. Future Income. Don’t just work for money, make your money work for you. Save and invest to ensure that you have income in the future. Contribute to your retirement plan as soon as you start working, buy a rental property, invest in a business. Ensure a future income for yourself and your family. 10. Generosity. Decide to be a generous person. No matter how little you have, always look for ways to be generous with others. The joy of giving elevates the soul. Get your child three jars and help them make labels: SAVE, SPEND, GIVE. Encourage him/her to put ten percent of any money they receive in the save jar, ten percent in the give jar, and eighty percent in the spend jar. Teach them to enjoy earning, saving, giving, and spending. Teaching your child about money is a gift that will pay dividends every day for the rest of their lives. It doesn’t matter how much money a person makes, if he/she doesn’t not know how to manage it wisely he/she will never have enough. Make the wisdom of money part of your life and your child’s life.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion

Clinical Psychologist Dr. Greg Bottaro, founder and director of the CatholicPsych Institute Interviews with Matthew Kelly New York Times bestselling author Matthew Kelly interviews Dr. Greg Bottaro. Introduction 0:00 Who is Dr. Greg Bottaro? 1:01 Why go to therapy? 7:19 How to find the right therapist. 8:35 Parenting advice - Dr. Greg Bottaro. 15:08 Marriage advice - Dr. Greg Bottaro. 30:50 How to get the most out of therapy. 37:13 Dealing with hopelessness - Dr. Greg Bottaro. 47:50 Advice for young women - Dr. Greg Bottaro. 53:53 Our biggest fear: being truly known. 57:37 Is depression on the rise in our culture? 1:08:56 The Mindful Catholic. 1:17:36 Working with the poor. 1:27:55 What are you running away from? 1:31:41 It’s time to wake up. 1:33:24 The CatholicPsych Institute. 1:36:30 Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKell... https://www.matthewkelly.com The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #60SecondWisdom #BestVersion

10 Things to Teach Your Child About God - Matthew Kelly Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe Video Transcript: “Whatever your hopes and dreams are for your child, the more connected they are to the wisdom of God, the better chance your child has of growing into the amazing person you and God want him/her to be. When is the right time to teach your child about God? Now and always. 1. God’s Dream. God has a dream for you. God created you to become the-best-version-of-yourself! As your father/mother, that’s my dream for you too. When you ask me if you can do something or have something, I ask myself if it will help you become a-better-version-of-yourself. 2. The Wisdom of God. The more you adopt the wisdom of God the happier you will be. When we reject God’s wisdom, in a mysterious way we reject ourselves. Alienation from God is alienation from self. If you are ever unhappy, begin by asking, is there an obstacle between myself and God? 3. God Answers Our Prayers. God answers every prayer. Sometimes with a yes, sometimes with a no, sometimes with a maybe, and sometimes with not now. God’s answer is always in your best interests. Always. God reasons may not always be apparent, but God always has a reason for what he does. 4. Decision Making. When you have a big decision to make, turn to God for advice and wisdom. Constantly seek the answer to this question: God, what do you think I should do? 5. The Voice of God. Learn to listen to God’s voice. God is always speaking to us in more ways than we can imagine. The question is, are we listening? 6. Talk to God. Throughout your day, keep a conversation going with God. Talk to him about what brings you joy and what makes you sad, talk to him about school and work, talk to him about decisions you are making. Just talk to him. When you talk to me, it brings be great joy. When you talk to God it brings him great joy. 7. God Loves You. God is your Father. You are a child of God not an orphan of the world. He created you and he loves you no matter what. There are many things in life that change, but not this. Nothing you can do can change God’s love for you, or cause him to stop loving you or love you less. When you love someone you want good things for that person, and God wants good things for you even more than you want them for yourself. God values love above everything else. When we are at our best, so do we. 8. The Spirit of God. The Spirit of God is tender, caring, courageous, generous, and loving. The spirit of the world is harsh, impersonal, uncaring, fearful, stingy, and selfish. You get to decide which spirit guides and rules your life. One leads to clarity and happiness and the other leads to confusion and misery. 9. Goodness. God cherishes goodness and there is a tremendous capacity for good in you. Nurture the goodness that God has placed within you, share it with the people who cross your path, and never stop looking for ways to do the most good for the most people with your life. 10. Knowing God. Learning about God fills our souls with joy, and brings clarity to our hearts and minds. Never stop learning about God. And yet, for everything we know about God, it is still just a drop in the ocean compared to what we don’t know about God. God is a mystery to be enjoyed and reverenced. Wisdom is the key to all we hope and dream for our children. By teaching them about God we are teaching them how to connect with the source of wisdom. Teaching your child about God is one of the greatest gifts you can ever give him/her. Next time your child asks for something, rather than saying, “Let me think about that” say “Let me pray about that.” Something this simple teaches your child that you consult God in your decisions and will encourage him/her to do the same.” If you have not read LIFE IS MESSY, order your copy today: https://amzn.to/2TTgZKn Subscribe to Matthew’s YouTube Channel today! https://www.youtube.com/c/MatthewKellyAuthor/featured?sub_confirmation=1 https://www.matthewkelly.com Get Matthew’s 60 Second Wisdom delivered to your inbox: https://www.matthewkelly.com/subscribe The Best Version of Yourself and 60 Second Wisdom are registered trademarks. #MatthewKelly #BestVersionOfYourself #BestVersion