Inner Path Seekers

Discover the secrets to building great and healthy relationships with relationship expert, Dr. Abby Medcalf. With over 30 years of experience counseling individuals and couples, Dr. Medcalf is the author of the highly-rated book 'Be Happily Married' and host of the popular podcast 'Relationships Made Easy'. Get ready for an energy-filled discussion on the fascinating topic of romantic relationships. Show notes for this episode with all the resources mentioned by Dr. Medcalf can be found here: https://theipsproject.com/2023/05/the-key-to-great-relationships/ _______ 📚The IPS Academy📚 If you feel that you’ve gained some insights and lessons from this interview, and you are curious to see what else we offer at The IPS Project, check out The IPS Academy, where we offer online courses taught by guests here on The IPS Podcast. Learn more about essential life topics, such as mental health, relationships, the mind, and the body and the brain, through fun and interactive courses. Simply go to https://theipsproject.com/academy. What is also interesting to note is that all the courses are quite affordable, as we at The IPS Project do not want money to stand in the way of bettering one's life. Each course has a few lessons to try for free, so you get a taste of what the course is like. We have countless reviews from other students so you can see what others think, and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee if you end up not liking the course. Again, check them out at https://theipsproject.com/academy. _______ 🕒Timestamps🕒 The IPS Academy 00:00 - 00:50 Intro 00:50 - 03:27 Studying relationships for more than 30 years 03:27 - 06:26 What got Dr. Medcalf so interested in relationships 06:26 - 08:58 The different approach Dr. Medcalf working with clients compared to other psychologists 08:58 - 13:37 Wrong mental health advice that is being shared on TikTok 13:37 - 19:35 The IPS Academy | Online Courses 19:35 - 20:52 Modern-day dating 20:52 - 31:50 Personality traits and qualities to look for in a partner 31:50 - 49:47 Relationships topics Dr. Medcalf would teach in school 49:47 - 58:10 The importance of having boundaries 58:10 - 1:05:26 How to negotiate in relationships 1:05:26 - 1:09:15 The final end question 1:09:15 - 1:10:29 Outro 1:10:29 - 1:11:31 The IPS Academy | Online Courses 1:11:31 - 1:12:58 _______ About The Inner Path Seekers Project (The IPS Project): The IPS Project is an educational platform on life. Here, you can find knowledge about life topics such as mental health, relationships, the workings of the mind, the body & brain, etc.—topics we learn little to nothing about growing up. Learn more about these topics through countless practical articles, animated videos, a book library, online courses, events, a podcast, and more. Start your journey today: https://theipsproject.com/. _______ #relationships #psychology #love

In this video on the YouTube channel of The IPS Project, get advice from Jellis Vaes, the founder of The IPS Project and a mental health coach, about what to do when dealing with an invisible pain, illness, or injury. Resources Mentioned: - The IPS Project https://theipsproject.com/ - Lessons about Life and Death from a Cancer Survivor and a Cardiac Arrest Survivor | Dr. Martin Inderbitzin and Jellis Vaes https://theipsproject.com/2023/04/lessons-about-life-and-death/ - Life After Prison – Craig Stanland: Losing Everything You Have and How to Start Over https://theipsproject.com/2021/06/craig-stanland-losing-everything-you/ - Quadruple Amputee Alex Lewis: Finding Your Way Out of Hell—and Thriving https://theipsproject.com/2022/09/how-to-find-your-way-out-of-hell-alex-lewis/ _______ 📚The IPS Academy📚 If you feel that you’ve gained some insights and lessons from this video, and you are curious to see what else we offer at The IPS Project, check out The IPS Academy, where we offer online courses taught by guests on The IPS Podcast. Learn more about essential life topics, such as mental health, relationships, the mind, and the body and the brain, through fun and interactive courses. Simply go to https://theipsproject.com/academy. Each course has a few lessons to try for free, so you get a taste of what the course is like. We have countless reviews from other students so you can see what others think, and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee if you end up not liking the course. Again, check them out at https://theipsproject.com/academy. _______ 🕒Timestamps🕒 Intro 00:00 - 02:08 It's Okay Not to Be Okay 02:08 - 04:38 Find a Support Group 04:38 - 07:20 Verbalize Your Feelings to People 07:20 - 10:23 Go Outside 10:23 - 12:12 Find Meaning 12:12 - 14:25 Outro 14:25 - 15:33 _______ About The Inner Path Seekers Project (The IPS Project): The IPS Project is an educational platform on life. Here, you can find knowledge about life topics such as mental health, relationships, the workings of the mind, the body & brain, etc.—topics we learn little to nothing about growing up. Learn more about these topics through countless practical articles, animated videos, a book library, online courses, events, a podcast, and more. Start your journey today: https://theipsproject.com/. _______ #pain #psychology #mentalhealth

“If you don’t invest in your wellness, you will have to invest in your illness.” – Martin Inderbitzin Dr. Martin Inderbitzin ( @martininderbitzin ) a neuroscientist and cancer survivor, and Jellis Vaes ( @JellisVaes ) a mental health coach and cardiac arrest survivor, share lessons about life and death in this interview on The IPS Podcast. Show notes for this episode with all the resources and ways to connect with Dr. Martin Inderbitzin and Jellis Vaes: https://theipsproject.com/2023/04/lessons-about-life-and-death/ _______ 📖Dare to Live by Dr. Martin Inderbitzin📖 Dare to Live by Dr. Martin Inderbitzin is a collection of condensed insights from his personal experiences over the past decade of fighting pancreatic cancer. Each chapter is filled with his thoughts and practical actions, combining his understanding of neuroscience and his personal experience of battling chronic cancer and surviving pancreatic cancer—all of which helped him overcome challenges and find hope. https://amzn.to/3zTqV8b _______ 📚The IPS Academy📚 If you feel that you’ve gained some insights and lessons from this interview, and you are curious to see what else we offer at The IPS Project, check out The IPS Academy, where we offer online courses taught by guests here on The IPS Podcast. Learn more about essential life topics, such as mental health, relationships, the mind, and the body and the brain, through fun and interactive courses. Simply go to TheIPSProject.com/academy. What is also interesting to note is that all the courses are quite affordable, as we at The IPS Project do not want money to stand in the way of bettering one's life. Each course has a few lessons to try for free, so you get a taste of what the course is like. We have countless reviews from other students so you can see what others think, and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee if you end up not liking the course. Again, check them out at TheIPSProject.com/academy. _______ 🕒Timestamps🕒 The IPS Academy 00:00 - 00:50 Intro 00:50 - 06:18 Life update about Dr. Martin Inderbitzin and Jellis Vaes 06:18 - 12:31 How illness can turn relationships into an emotional rollercoaster 12:31 - 17:36 How Jellis Vaes was diagnosed with heart disease 17:36 - 23:32 Dr. Martin Inderbitzin’s recent cancer surgery 23:32 - 27:02 The questions about life and death that will be covered 27:02 - 28:05 How to balance living in the moment and planning for the future when time is limited 28:05 - 33:02 The importance of pursuing meaning instead of pleasure 33:0 - 37:16 How to help people see their own fragility 37:16 - 42:25 Why you should invest in your wellness 42:25 - 49:59 Good investments Martin and Jellis would recommend for your wellness 49:59 - 57:31 How to deal with hearing bad news in life 57:31 - 1:08:25 The IPS Academy | Online Courses 1:08:25 - 1:09:41 How to effectively celebrate the good news in life 1:09:41 - 1:15:35 How Martin started with sailing 1:15:35 - 1:19:31 Life lessons Martin learned through sailing 1:19:31 - 1:22:50 Life lessons Jellis learned through climbing mountains 1:22:50 - 1:24:40 How sailing and climbing mountains are schools of life 1:24:40 - 1:26:52 People Martin and Jellis look up to 1:26:52 - 1:31:05 Suggested books, videos, and podcasts about life and death 1:31:05 - 1:34:12 Martin's first book: Dare to Live 1:34:12 - 1:41:06 Outro 1:41:06 - 1:42:07 The IPS Academy | Online Courses 1:42:07 - 1:43:33 _______ About The Inner Path Seekers Project (The IPS Project): The IPS Project is an educational platform on life. Here, you can find knowledge about life topics such as mental health, relationships, the workings of the mind, the body & brain, etc.—topics we learn little to nothing about growing up. Learn more about these topics through countless practical articles, animated videos, a book library, online courses, events, a podcast, and more. Start your journey today: https://theipsproject.com/. _______ #life #death #meaning

“Compassion is for people who are suffering. Sympathy is for people who are suffering. Empathy is stepping out of my point of view and stepping into your point of view. And I can do that with you if you are happy, if you are confused, if you are suffering or not suffering.” - Karen Faith Empathy is a practice, not a feeling. Yes, you read that right. Whether you’re naturally good at feeling it or not, there is a set of skills behind empathy that anyone can learn and get better at. Knowing this opens a door that some people might feel has never existed for them before. And for others, it opens up the possibility to connect even more deeply with the people around them. In this episode on The IPS Podcast, we invited Karen Faith, empathy trainer and founder of Others Unlimited—a professional training and coaching firm that provides empathy training to brands, teams, and individuals. Some of the Questions: - How have you come to the realization that empathy is indeed a practice and not a feeling? - Have you noticed a difference between men and women in how they show empathy? - What are some small or big things that you have noticed people doing that they think are helpful, but in reality are actually rather standing in the way of creating a true connection with someone? What You Will Learn from this Episode: - What ultimately led Karen to start Others Unlimited and give trainings on empathy - An exercise that Karen uses in her workshops to strengthen empathy - What unconditional welcome is Show notes for this episode with all the resources and ways to connect with Karen: https://theipsproject.com/2023/02/how-to-strengthen-your-empathy/. _______ 📚The IPS Academy📚 If you feel that you’ve gained some insights and lessons from this interview, and you are curious to see what else we offer at The IPS Project, check out The IPS Academy, where we offer online courses taught by guests here on The IPS Podcast. Learn more about essential life topics, such as mental health, relationships, the mind, and the body and the brain, through fun and interactive courses. Simply go to TheIPSProject.com/academy. What is also interesting to note is that all the courses are quite affordable, as we at The IPS Project do not want money to stand in the way of bettering one's life. Each course has a few lessons to try for free, so you get a taste of what the course is like. We have countless reviews from other students so you can see what others think, and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee if you end up not liking the course. Again, check them out at TheIPSProject.com/academy. _______ 🕒Timestamps🕒 Intro 00:00 - 03:32 Karen's TEDx Talk 03:32 - 05:34 What is unconditional welcome 05:34 - 10:00 The difference between compassion, sympathy, and empathy 10:00 - 11:10 How Karen started doing training in empathy 11:10 - 18:00 Empathy is a practice, not a feeling 18:00 - 31:48 Exercises to improve empathy 31:48 - 43:00 What people do that are not helpful 43:00 - 47:55 The IPS Academy 47:55 - 49:00 The difference between how men and women show empathy 49:00 - 54:05 Karen's list of resources to learn more about empathy 54:05 - 55:55 C-PTSD (complex post-traumatic stress disorder) and self-empathy 55:55 - 1:12:54 The final question 1:12:54 - 1:14:43 Outro 1:14:43 - 1:15:49 _______ About The Inner Path Seekers Project (The IPS Project): The IPS Project is an educational platform on life. Here, you can find knowledge about life topics such as mental health, relationships, the workings of the mind, the body & brain, etc.—topics we learn little to nothing about growing up. Learn more about these topics through countless practical articles, animated videos, a book library, online courses, events, a podcast, and more. Start your journey today: https://theipsproject.com/. _______ #empathy #podcast #empathymatters

NOTE: The interview starts off in the first 10 minutes with some minor technical problems; the internet was not the most stable. However, just give it a few minutes as it does improve. “I was told early on that with amputation 95% is mental and 5% is physical. If you get your head straight, the rest will follow.” - Alex Lewis There are people in this world who just blow your socks off with their courage and strength despite the massive adversities they had to go through. Alex Lewis, our guest in this interview, is one of those people. Before Alex lost his limbs and his lips, he was—as he describes himself—just a regular guy, with a partner and a two-year-old son, who ran a restaurant and who was primarily a stay-at-home dad. All this, however, changed in November 2013 when he fell ill. Some of the Questions: - What happened in November 2013 when you thought you only had a common cold? What did those days seem like and when did you know something was not right? - Is there something you would say to the “old you” (the one with limbs) that you feel could have helped you to live a better life? - I read somewhere that you really liked the book Man's Search for Meaning by Víctor Frankl. What parts of the book spoke to you the most? What You Will Learn from this Episode: - When and why Alex decided to fight and not remain a victim - How he has learned to accept the changes that had happened to his body and to feel okay with them - Why Alex received a personal invitation from Chris Martin, the lead singer of Coldplay Show notes for this episode with all the resources and ways to connect with Alex: https://theipsproject.com/2022/09/how-to-find-your-way-out-of-hell-alex-lewis/ _______ 📚The IPS Academy📚 If you feel that you’ve gained some insights and lessons from this interview, and you are curious to see what else we offer at The IPS Project, check out The IPS Academy, where we offer online courses taught by guests here on The IPS Podcast. Learn more about essential life topics, such as mental health, relationships, the mind, and the body and the brain, through fun and interactive courses. Simply go to TheIPSProject.com/academy. What is also interesting to note is that all the courses are quite affordable, as we at The IPS Project do not want money to stand in the way of bettering one's life. Each course has a few lessons to try for free, so you get a taste of what the course is like. We have countless reviews from other students so you can see what others think, and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee if you end up not liking the course. Again, check them out at TheIPSProject.com/academy. _____ Connect with Alex Lewis: WEBSITE: https://www.alex-lewis.co.uk/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/alexlewistrust/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Alexlewistrust _____ Connect with The IPS Project: WEBSITE: https://theipsproject.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TheIPSProject INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/the_ips_project _____ Timestamps: Alex's trip to Namibia 00:00 - 08:45 How Alex lost his limbs and lips 08:45 - 24:45 When Alex was lying in the hospital 24:45 - 33:14 Alex when he still had all his limbs 33:14 - 36:52 The reason why Alex did not give up 36:52 - 45:45 Chris Martin, from Coldplay, recommended Man’s Search for Meaning to Alex 45:45 - 51:28 When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi 51:28 - 54:05 Comparing your problems to others 54:05 - 1:02:28 The IPS Academy 1:02:28 - 1:03:43 What Alex is the most grateful for what his wife did for him 1:03:43 - 1:11:25 How Alex learned to accept the changes that happened to his body 1:11:25 - 1:20:55 Dealing with constant stares 1:20:55 - 1:27:08 The first adventure Alex went on 1:27:08 - 1:34:00 Where to follow Alex Lewis 1:34:00 - 1:35:12 The final end question 1:35:12 - 1:36:22 Outro 1:36:22 - 1:37:17 _____ About The Inner Path Seekers Project (The IPS Project): The IPS Project is an educational platform on life. Here, you can find knowledge about life topics such as mental health, relationships, the workings of the mind, the body & brain, etc.—topics we learn little to nothing about growing up. Learn more about these topics through countless practical articles, animated videos, a book library, online courses, events, a podcast, and more. Start your journey today: https://theipsproject.com/ _______ #podcast #strength #life

“Eating disorders are not about food.” - Ashley McHan In this interview on The IPS Podcast Ashley McHan, a licensed eating disorder and trauma specialist sits down with Jellis Vaes, the host of the podcast, to talk about eating disorders. Some of the Questions: - What could you recommend as first steps to someone listening who knows they have an eating disorder or recognize they might be struggling with one? - For the people listening who know someone with an eating disorder, or might suspect someone around them to have one, how do you offer help? - Apart from anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating, which other eating disorder do you feel does not get enough attention? What You Will Learn from this Episode: - What the difference is between anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating. - How past traumas and eating disorders often go hand in hand. - Why it is so difficult to recover from an eating disorder and what to do against relapsing. Show notes for this episode with all the resources and ways to connect with Ashley: https://theipsproject.com/2022/04/understanding-eating-disorders-ashley-mchan/ _______ Timestamps: IPS T-Shirts 00:00 - 01:07 Intro 01:07 - 04:58 Anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating 04:58 - 16:43 (ARFID) Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder 16:43 - 21:47 What defines an eating disorder? 21:47 - 23:55 Ashley’s personal story and experience 23:55 - 34:08 First steps for those struggling with an eating disorder 34:08 - 48:00 How to help someone who struggles with an eating disorder 48:00 - 56:00 Social media 56:00 - 1:02:23 The final end question 1:02:23 - 1:05:38 End 1:05:38 - 1:07:17 _______ About The Inner Path Seekers Project (The IPS Project): The IPS Project is an educational platform on life. Here, you can find knowledge about life topics such as mental health, relationships, the workings of the mind, the body & brain, etc.—topics we learn little to nothing about growing up. Learn more about these topics through countless practical articles, animated videos, a book library, online courses, events, a podcast, and more. Start your journey today: https://theipsproject.com/