Biblical Counseling Marriage & Family

Marriage by definition is the union of a man and woman and is procreative. That’s what marriage is. Marriage IS something. Gay relationships are something else. They are not the same.

Men don’t cease being men and women don’t cease being women after the resurrection and into eternity. The Bible gives us at least four sound theological reasons. Two reasons come from the record of creation, and two come from the promise of our bodily resurrection and future eternal life.

Male and female are NOT two poles at either end of a gender spectrum. Human beings are either male or female.

In order to understand ourselves we have to begin with God who made us. Transgenderism doesn’t begin with God. It’s a movement whereby man attempts to understand himself by beginning with himself and his subjective feelings.

Our society coddles children with participation trophies and safe spaces. If you are over-protective and don’t allow your child to experience failure, or emotional pain he will never learn that he CAN and still survive.

What does the Bible teach us about emotions? What’s the origin of our emotions?

Think about what children are being taught in schools; evolution, Critical Race Theory, homosexuality, transgenderism and a hatred of the founding of our country. The whole emphasis is anti-God, anti-Bible, anti-truth. Who’s going to counter these trends? Parents!

Looking at someone with lustful intent is looking at someone as a means of gratifying a desire you have. It’s greed and selfishness. The person is a commodity for you to have.

Is your unruly and rebellious child a minor, or an adult living at home. What are the parent's obligations? What are the child's?

A father’s leadership in the home influences the kind of future leaders we have in society. That makes strong leadership in the home, crucial. What makes a strong leader? What makes a strong man? What is the most basic virtue of manliness?

Husbands and fathers are making choices in their lives that pull them away from family.

Parents must make hard choices regarding I-Phones, video games and so on. if they do nothing, technology may take over their family life in some very negative ways.

Does your child have problems at school that affect his learning, behavior, or both? How do you respond in a godly way to a child who is rebellious yet also has special needs and challenges?

Parents need to teach their children biblical discernment. If they don’t, their sixteen-year-old son or daughter won’t know how to make wise decisions on their own.

Self-expression is not in and of itself wrong. We express ourselves every day. Some express themselves through their music, art, family and occupation.

Should believers indulge in feelings of self-worth because of what Jesus Christ did on the cross? In other words, should salvation lead a person to esteem himself?

Jesus never showed any concern about people’s self-esteem. Jesus never gave anyone instructions on how to enhance their self-esteem. He never talked about growing in self-esteem. But He did teach His disciples the importance of growing in faith and good works.

One of the most popular themes in psychology is self-esteem. The idea of esteeming oneself has had a powerful influence among believers. Christians are encouraged by beloved Christian authors to develop a “healthy” self-esteem.

Everyone at one time or another will experience painful emotions. They can be very confusing. And you wonder, “Why do I feel this way? How can I get back to feeling normal again.

How is addiction treated? Treatment typically consists of counseling aimed at changing the addict’s beliefs, motives, and behaviors. Alcoholics Anonymous is a perfect example. Alcoholics Anonymous is the pattern or model of the approach to addiction treatment.

The theory of addiction is built upon an evolutionary/materialistic worldview. This view rejects the immaterial side of man. It teaches that man is a material being only. If man is only a material being then all his problems are material or physical problems.

Apart from Scripture you will never understand why an individual craves alcohol, is obsessed with sex, gambling, shopping, or food. Addiction can only be understood in the context of mankind’s fallen condition.

What is it about mankind that makes us so vulnerable to being overcome by certain desires? Why do people crave substances and why do people do things that are wrong, and harmful not just to themselves but to those they love.

A parent that loves their child will discipline their child. You want to keep your child from developing sinful habits. You realize you are on a rescue mission to save your child from a life of trouble.