Darren F Magee

The straw man fallacy is when someone takes something you've said out of context and attacks you for what they claim you said or meant. It's a way of misdirecting a conversation or an argument. A common arguing tactic of narcissists. Watch the full video on my channel.

Why do narcissists ruin special events and occasions such as holidays, birthdays and Christmas? Whether they are parents, in laws, partners or ex partners, narcissists have a tendency to ruin things for other people, even if in their quest to try to make everything perfect, Looking at Grandiose, Covert and Altruistic narcissism this video looks at some of the common characteristics and behaviours and how they can ruin any special occasion, especially the ones where they are not the centre of attention. Part two of this video - Narcissists and Gift Giving Other videos you might find interesting: Why do narcissists discard others? https://youtu.be/_O9Cq_QJOSg What happens when narcissists grow older? https://youtu.be/tt7YwF5lH_Y The stages of an abusive relationship https://youtu.be/VRKbhxzRybY Why do narcissists behave the way they do? https://youtu.be/ic0dmzz8wQ8 Seven signs of a healthy relationship https://youtu.be/l73RWcTfCt8 Did they ever really love you? https://youtu.be/ARc-SIeNsNU Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissism #narcissistrelationship

Gaslighting is a term used to describe the psychological and emotional manipulation of someone's sense of reality. But what is the difference between gaslighting and just lying? Not always easy to spot as gaslighting often involves lying. Other videos you might find interesting: Recognising Gaslighting https://youtu.be/QcUDXFuC5TY Gaslighting - Emotional and Psychological Manipulation https://youtu.be/-jtuYJLfAHw How to Respond to Gaslighting https://youtu.be/Pp3rVB460Mc Pathological vs Compulsive Lying https://youtu.be/LSolhbg9Bc4 Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos If you found this video helpful please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #gaslighting #liar #darrenmagee

Did the narcissist ever really love you? Can they love? Watch the full video to find out.

Do narcissists love others? Are they capable of love? If you've been a relationship with a narcissistic person the obvious answer might be 'no'. However narcissism can be more complex than you might think, and it’s not always easy to give a definitive answer as we can never fully know what is in someones head. This video looks at the different kinds and stages of love and explores how narcissists might experience them, if at all. 00:00 Intro 01:24 What is love? 02:25 Romance 03:59 Being in Love 04:44 Commitment 08:17 Conclusion 11:04 Did they ever love me? Other videos you might find interesting: Why do narcissists discard others? https://youtu.be/_O9Cq_QJOSg What happens when narcissists grow older? https://youtu.be/tt7YwF5lH_Y The stages of an abusive relationship https://youtu.be/VRKbhxzRybY Why do narcissists behave the way they do? https://youtu.be/ic0dmzz8wQ8 Seven signs of a healthy relationship https://youtu.be/l73RWcTfCt8 Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissistrelationship #narcissism #narcissists

Some ideas on how to support someone who has been in a long term abusive relationship

Why do narcissists avoid responsibility and accountability? Why do they blame shift, accuse others of doing the very things they do themselves? "Since [narcissists] deep down, feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault. Since they must deny their own badness, they must perceive others as bad. They project their own evil onto the world. They never think of themselves as evil, on the other hand, they consequently see much evil in others. "– M. Scott Peck, M.D.

Narcissistic rage is a term that was first coined by Heinz Kohut in 1972 in his book ‘The Analysis of the Self’. It refers to how a narcissist reacts to what they would consider to be negative feedback, or when expectations are not met. This causes a discomfort that triggers an exaggerated angry response often out of proportion to the perceived offence. This video outlines ten signs of narcissistic rage and how it differs from a normal outburst of anger. Other videos you might find interesting: Seven Signs of a Healthy Relationship https://youtu.be/l73RWcTfCt8 Seven Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship https://youtu.be/WMRFYyCtoic What to Expect in a Relationship with a Grandiose Narcissist https://youtu.be/Tz_SW6U1Qog Why Narcissists Discard People https://youtu.be/_O9Cq_QJOSg Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

The crew of the Titanic had a choice. Either try to avoid something that was unavoidable or hit the damn thing head on. Either way there would have been consequences. They chose the former and the rest is history. Sometimes we have to choose our consequences, the ones we might thank ourselves for later on.

Narcissism is characterised by a sense of entitlement and being self absorbed. There’s a lack of empathy for others. They can be highly disagreeable and highly resistant to criticism. They can also be envious of others, and believe others should envy them. Many people who have been in long term relationships report their self confidence, self esteem and sense of self had been eroded over time. This video looks at how and why that happens. Other videos you might find interesting: How covert narcissists manipulate https://youtu.be/UTDics5IeDs How narcissists make their victims look like villains https://youtu.be/_2cHAjmArPE How Narcissists Bully Others https://youtu.be/ROkr8I4gIF8 What happens when you ignore a narcissist? https://youtu.be/ZVRjD4ZryRY If you need support for being abused there are some helpful links below. https://mensallianceni.co.uk/ https://belfastwomensaid.org.uk/ https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help This video is for information purposes only Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. If you found this video interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissism #narcissistrelationship #abusiverelationship

Narcissism is characterised by a sense of entitlement, theres grandiosity, a lack empathy for others and a constant need for attention and admiration. A narcissistic discard is when a person with narcissistic tendencies ends their relationship with someone. This video outlines seven of the common reasons why narcissists discard others, and also whether or not the discard may or may not be permanent. Other videos you might find interesting: Seven Signs of a Healthy Relationship https://youtu.be/l73RWcTfCt8 Seven Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship https://youtu.be/WMRFYyCtoic What to Expect in a Relationship with a Grandiose Narcissist https://youtu.be/Tz_SW6U1Qog Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

Communal narcissists are often outgoing just like grandiose narcissists. Both have similar traits and motives regarding entitlement and the need for admiration, but employ different behaviours in order to achieve them. They typically seek out and like to have important or moral roles in society and they experience immense validation from feeling like they are the most virtuous, dedicated, hardest working people involved. This video looks at some of the common signs and traits of communal narcissism including altruism and virtue signalling, and also looking at what happens when a group of communal narcissists come together in the same thing. 00:00 Intro 01:11 Communal motivations 03:28 Low Level 04:21 The Martyr 05:35 Mission in Life 06:45 Virtue Signalling 08:21 The Superhero 09:42 Narcissistic Groups Other videos you might find interesting: Virtue Signalling and Narcissism https://youtu.be/yOSlu4ccgJw The Altruistic Narcissist https://youtu.be/7ZX-VMI-Liw Is Cancel Culture Vindictive Narcissism? https://youtu.be/Q7BRD-siRA4 Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

Gaslighting is a term used to describe forms of psychological and emotional manipulation aimed at confusing other people's sense of reality, having them doubt their own thoughts, feelings and experiences. It is a tactic abusive people use to create a sense of uncertainty in others, have them believe different narratives and control them. This video outlines what gaslighting is, how to recognise it when it happens and gives some ideas to consider when it comes to respond to it. Other videos on this topic you might find interesting: What is 'Gaslighting?' https://youtu.be/-jtuYJLfAHw The Stages of Gaslighting, Tactics and Phrases https://youtu.be/QcUDXFuC5TY Dealing with 'Strawman' Arguments https://youtu.be/oTqITHKt_nU Managing Boundaries (Part 1) https://youtu.be/_kYml-ZQChY Managing Boundaries (Part 2) https://youtu.be/BKcQBfauXBY Managing Boundaries (Part 3) https://youtu.be/3nmSBk-WCJ0 Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

What kind of things do narcissistic people face from middle age and approach old age, and how they react? Whether a parent, partner or friend, this video answers questions about 'How do narcissists behave as they grow older? Do they change, if so is it for the better or do they get worse?' Also answering the question 'What can friends and family experience as the narcissist grows older?' Narcissism is characterised by a sense of entitlement, being disagreeable, highly resistant to criticism and having a lack of empathy for others. Other videos on this topic you might find interesting: Narcissistic Mother / Daughter Relationship https://youtu.be/BywgD_1HQ0w Narcissistic Mother / Son Relationship https://youtu.be/9B3_cI4Pp9U Narcissistic Mother in Law https://youtu.be/nnv9wcAbYTs Narcissistic Father / Daughter Relationship https://youtu.be/LHhgfeMD9PA Narcissistic Father / Son Relationship https://youtu.be/MLFc36iFL7k Narcissistic Father in Law https://youtu.be/-ELMOLdAwNI https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31670564/ https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/wellbeing/articles/measuringnationalwellbeing/atwhatageispersonalwellbeingthehighest Wetzel, E., Grijalva, E., Robins, R. W., & Roberts, B. W. (2020). "You’re still so vain: Changes in narcissism from young adulthood to middle age." Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 119(2), 479–496 Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #agingnarcissist #narcissism #darrenmagee

Oppositional Defiant Disorder, sometimes referred to as ODD, is a condition characterised by a continuing pattern of behaviour that can be defiant, hostile, un-cooperative and disruptive towards others, in particular authority figures. This video looks at some of the common characteristics and traits of ODD and how they present in day to day life, relationships and at work. 00:00 Intro What is ODD? 01:50 Co Morbidity 02:21 Common Characteristics 04:49 Defiance Disorder in Relationships 06:47 Defiance Disorder at work 08:58 Living with ODD Other videos you might find interesting: Narcissist's False Superiority Complex https://youtu.be/rFtUyBx2eno Signs Your relationship will fail https://youtu.be/yxS1DU1IGrE Dealing with StrawMan arguments https://youtu.be/oTqITHKt_nU Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. If you found this video interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #oppositionaldefiant #personalitydisorder #

Tourette Syndrome is a condition of the nervous system which causes people to have 'tics', sudden involuntary twitches, sounds or movements that people do repeatedly. Neurodiversity describes how people experience, process information and interact with the world around them in many different ways. Becky Simpson Ryan is a therapist based in the UK and has had a diagnosis of Tourettes Syndrome since she was fourteen. She works to educate others on neurodiversity through social media and provides support through her counselling practice. In today's discussion Becky shares her first hand experience and insight into Tourettes Syndrome and dispels many myths around it. Becky's channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKq5LUTvJTFrHu7VP_Q_10Q Becky's interview with Paul Stevenson https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8We619fKPHY Becky's Music https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6ocZEUE3_TnLzF9Yqck8-g https://www.bsimpsontherapy.com/ Follow her on Twitter @stigmainthebin https://www.tourettes-action.org.uk/ #tourettesyndrome #neurodiversity #counselling

Coercive control is a series of behaviours aimed to dominate through manipulating, threatening, abusing and bullying someone into submission. Among other things it can involve emotional, psychological, sometimes even physical abuse. Some of the common recurring themes in coercive relationships involve gaslighting, intimidation, violence, with holding attention or resources, and emotional blackmail. This video outlines the stages of a coercive, abusive relationship from the beginning, usually known as the honeymoon period, to how the victim adapts to the abuse. What happens when the victim realises it is coercive control and what happens when they either leave or attempt to leave, and the aftermath. Other videos you might find interesting: How covert narcissists manipulate https://youtu.be/UTDics5IeDs How narcissists make their victims look like villains https://youtu.be/_2cHAjmArPE How Narcissists Bully Others https://youtu.be/ROkr8I4gIF8 What happens when you ignore a narcissist? https://youtu.be/ZVRjD4ZryRY This video is for information purposes only Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. If you found this video interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #coercivecontrol #domesticabuseawareness #abusiverelationship

Narcissists have a strong need for attention and admiration from others. But what happens when you no longer give them that attention? This could be asserting boundaries, start to use the Grey Rock method, or decide to go no contact. How do narcissistic people react? This video outlines some of the common reactions they employ to get your attention back, and some of the motivations and reasons behind that behaviour. 00:00 Introduction 00:43 Characteristics of narcissism 01:26 Silent treatment 01:55 Romance/bribery 02:40 Trying to reason 03:08 Stalking 03:57 Recruit flying monkeys 04:50 Emotional blackmail 05:20 Aggression 05:56 Motivations Other videos you might find interesting: How covert narcissists manipulate https://youtu.be/UTDics5IeDs How narcissists make their victims look like villains https://youtu.be/_2cHAjmArPE How Narcissists Bully Others https://youtu.be/ROkr8I4gIF8 Narcissist's Superiority Complex https://youtu.be/rFtUyBx2eno Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. If you found this video interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

To be ostracised, excluded by others can be one of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse in the sense that the aggressors don't have to actually do anything except ignore their target. It can happen at work, in communities, friendship groups and even families. In this video I outline what it is, the affects on someone's mental health and refer to research carried out by Professor Kipling D Williams. For further information: https://www.purdue.edu/newsroom/research/2011/110510WilliamsOstracism.html#:~:text=This%20is%20when%20people%20who,helplessness%20and%20feelings%20of%20unworthiness.%22 Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

One of the reasons why relationships succeed or fail can be how much work both parties put into it.

Narcissism is characterised by a sense of grandiosity, a sense of entitlement and being self absorbed. There is also a lack of empathy for others and a believe others envy them. This video answers the questions how and why narcissistic people behave as if they are superior to others, and gives examples of how they try to look more intelligent, more accomplished and more important than they often are, also why they rarely back down when in error. Other videos you might find interesting: How covert narcissists manipulate https://youtu.be/UTDics5IeDs How narcissists make their victims look like villains https://youtu.be/_2cHAjmArPE How Narcissists Bully Others https://youtu.be/ROkr8I4gIF8 Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissist #narcissism #darrenmagee

Borderline Personality Disorder is part of the Cluster B Group of personalities, characterised by dramatic, overly emotional or unpredictable thinking and behaviours. Key characteristics of BPD include emotional dysregulation and a fear of abandonment. In this video Darren Magee talks with mental health advocate Bryan Ingram about his experiences living with Quiet Borderline, a subtype of BPD where many of the symptoms and characteristics are internalised which can lead to constant rumination, self doubt and difficulties asserting boundaries. Bryan speaks candidly about his experiences growing up, his relationship with himself as well as others, and how he feels it is the 'scapegoat' disorder, for not only being held accountable for how others feel, but also being criticised and rejected when feeling hurt. Bryan can be followed on Twitter, YouTube and TikTok TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bpdbryan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bpdbryan/?hl=en Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #bpd #quietborderline #borderlinepersonalitydisorder

An energy vampire is someone who takes advantage of other peoples good will and kind nature, draining their time, energy and resources and exhausting their patience. They are often self absorbed and can show a lack of critical thinking, self awareness, emotional intelligence or empathy, and leave others mentally and emotionally exhausted. In this video Darren Magee outlines nine different kinds of energy vampire who will frustrate, irritate, guilt trip and embarrass in their quest for attention. 00:00 Intro 00:53 The know it all 01:46 The wrecking ball 02:23 The time waster 03:01 The envious 03:38 The complainer 04:30 The liar 05:10 The frustrator 05:40 the self righteous 06:15 The perpetual victim Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee (For a comedic take on the energy vampire, check out Colin Robinson from 'What we do in the shadows) #energyvampire #attentionseeker #darrenmagee

Many relationships go through difficulties from time to time and many can be resolved. However after studying over 2,000 couples for more than two decades Dr John Gottman found there are four attitudes and behaviours present in a relationship around how couples relate to each other that can predict with some accuracy relationship failure if they continue unchecked. He named them the 'Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse'. These behaviours are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. In this video Darren Magee outlines the four behaviours and gives examples of how they manifest, then shares some thoughts on whether or not the relationship can be salvaged. (Gottman, John, 1994. Why Marriages Succeed or Fail) Other topics you might find interesting: Seven Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship https://youtu.be/WMRFYyCtoic Seven Signs of a Healthy Relationship https://youtu.be/l73RWcTfCt8 Pathological Jealousy https://youtu.be/eINYkWLQ59o Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #relationships #relationshipproblems #darrenmagee

The Dark Personality consists of different traits such as narcissism, sadism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy. People with Dark Personality also have cognitive empathy, sometimes referred to as Dark Empathy. Researchers Zettler, Moshagen and Hilbeg found a common tendency with all the traits and called it the D-Factor. These tendencies, to different degrees include being selfish, egotistical,callous, manipulative, lying, cruel and being spiteful and resentful. In this video Darren Magee outlines the nine characteristics of the dark personality and looks at how these traits manifest when co-occuring together. 00:00 Intro 00:34 The D Factor 01:01 Different motivations 02:11 Egoism 02:45 Machiavellianism 03:29 Moral Disengagement 03:52 Narcissism 04:24 Psychological Entitlement 04:42 Psychopathy 05:10 Sadism 05:35 Self Interest 06:09 Spitefulness 06:44 When they co-occur together 08:33 Can you help someone with the D Factor? Other videos you might find interesting: Internet Trolls https://youtu.be/bLJMBnO02OY Personality types of Internet Trolls https://youtu.be/elkimw5TRQs Stalkers - Personality and Motivations https://youtu.be/sXry2KtNQc0 This video is for information purposes only and not a substitute for support from a mental health professional. Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you liked this video please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee