Darren F Magee

Stalking is defined as repeated and persistent unwanted communications, approaches and intrusions into someone’s life, into their privacy, and there are many levels to it. It can a form of mental assault. In this video Darren Magee looks at the different kinds of stalker, (rejected, resentful, incompetent, intimacy seeker and predator) as well as the difference between when the stalker is stranger and someone you know, such as an ex partner. Looking also at the impact being stalked can have on victims. 00:00 Intro 0:38 What is stalking? 02:04 The dark side of stalking 02.45 Social Media 03:01 The stranger 03:59 Partner/ex partner 05:17 What kind of person stalks others? 06:40 Stalker Subtypes 07:00 Rejected Stalker 08:11 Incompetent Stalker 08:48 Intimacy Seeker 09:13 Predator Stalker 10:04 Resentful Stalker 11:11 Personality traits 11:34 The affects of being stalked Research: https://www.marshall.edu/wcenter/stalking/characteristic-of-a-stalker/ https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/ss6308a1.htm https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1557085107306517 Mullen PE, Path M, Purcell R (2000), Stalkers and Their Victims. Cambridge, Mass.: Cambridge University Press. Path M, Mullen PE (1997), The impact of stalkers on their victims. Br J Psychiatry 170:12-17. Useful Contacts: https://www.gov.uk/report-stalker https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/stalking/ https://victimconnect.org/learn/types-of-crime/stalking/ Other videos you might find interesting: Internet Trolls https://youtu.be/bLJMBnO02OY Personality types of Internet Trolls https://youtu.be/elkimw5TRQs Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

Spiritual Abuse is quite an insidious form of coercive control as it is often carried out by a person in a position of 'moral or religious superiority', or someone the victims admire and look to for guidance and support. The abuse is often carried out whilst claiming to be either for the victim's 'own good', or for the greater good. It is sometimes referred to a Religious abuse, but is not exclusive to a religious setting or by religious people. Spiritual abuse can happen in relationships, families, the workplace, or the community. It can also happen in political or ideological movements and cults. In this video Darren Magee outlines what spiritual abuse is and lists common signs and examples of it, as well as looking at the impact it can have on someone. Other videos you might find interesting: What is Gaslighting? https://youtu.be/-jtuYJLfAHw Emotional Abuse https://youtu.be/9KiReTScQxM Triangulation https://youtu.be/e8rmJbMCtno Ostracism https://youtu.be/B9BAXkwVNj0 Financial Abuse https://youtu.be/IajHlGw_jTo Psychological Abuse https://youtu.be/uSg-jT0bn4o Please feel free to use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #spiritualabuse #religiousabuse #darrenmagee

A Straw man argument is the term given when someone takes something you say and twists it, distorts it and phrases it back exaggerating your original point completely out of context. It is a form of gaslighting and can be a powerful tactic to misrepresent and derail any conversation as you are now focusing on what they claim you said rather than what you actually said. It can also be quite affective at making someone look crazy as people tend to get defensive when being dramatically misrepresented. In this video Darren Magee outlines some common 'straw manning' tactics and phrases, and looks at some of the kinds of people who use this tactic and their different reasons. Also looking at different examples of straw man arguments, and ways to handle these kinds of conversations. Other videos you might find interesting: Gaslighting https://youtu.be/-jtuYJLfAHw Recognising Gaslighting Tactics, stages and Phrases https://youtu.be/QcUDXFuC5TY Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #strawman #sowhatyou'resayingis #darrenmagee

Psychological manipulation and abuse involves the regular and deliberate use of verbal and non-verbal communication with the purpose to manipulate, hurt, weaken or frighten a person emotionally and mentally. It is a form of coercive behaviours with the intent to distort, disorientate and confuse or influence a person’s thoughts and actions within their everyday lives, changing their sense of self and harming their wellbeing. In this video Darren Magee outlines some of the common signs and examples of psychological abuse including intimidation and bullying, gaslighting, humiliation and devaluing. Other videos you might find interesting: What is Gaslighting? https://youtu.be/-jtuYJLfAHw Emotional Abuse https://youtu.be/9KiReTScQxM Triangulation https://youtu.be/e8rmJbMCtno Ostracism https://youtu.be/B9BAXkwVNj0 Financial Abuse https://youtu.be/IajHlGw_jTo Spiritual Abuse https://youtu.be/F_IPe-mv0gM If you need support for being abused there are some helpful links below. https://mensallianceni.co.uk/ https://belfastwomensaid.org.uk/ https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help Please feel free to use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #psychologicalabuse #coercivecontrol #darrenmagee

Everybody has a need to feel accepted by others, and when others ignore, isolate and reject you this can cause a lot of pain and hurt. Before compromising your integrity and self respect just to be accepted, perhaps look at the calibre of those who are rejecting you. #darrenmagee #rejection #bullying

Many victims of narcissistic abuse are often left wondering why no one believes what they've been through. Some even question themselves if they were indeed the problem. Through blame shifting, gaslighting and projection many narcissistic people try to convince their victims and others into believing they were innocent the whole time, they are actually the victim. In this video Darren Magee outlines seven common behaviours and phrases narcissists use to grind down their victims self confidence, self esteem, reputation and character. Wear down their resolve and question their own reality by twisting and exaggerating situations, and blaming their victim by focusing on their reactions as the problem, rather than what they have done to provoke the reaction. Other videos on the topic you might find interesting: Recognising the stages of Gaslighting, common phrases https://youtu.be/QcUDXFuC5TY Reactive Abuse, the Abused Abuser https://youtu.be/0wwswrPGdP0 How Covert Narcissists Manipulate https://youtu.be/UTDics5IeDs How Narcissists Bully Others https://youtu.be/ROkr8I4gIF8 Please feel free to suggest any mental health topics you might want me to cover in future videos. If you find this video interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

Gaslighting is not just lying but a form of psychological and emotional manipulation. It is a tactic commonly used by narcissists to abuse and manipulate someone into questioning their own sense of reality, their values, memories and integrity. The aim is to have victims believe their thoughts, feelings and experiences aren't valid. The abuser tells their victim a version of reality, what to believe and what not to believe through a process of lies and manipulation. Because many abusers can be very intelligent and have had a long time to practice their skills, the victims often questions their own thoughts, experiences and may think that they are crazy. Other videos you might find interesting: Recognising Gaslighting Tactics, stages and Phrases https://youtu.be/QcUDXFuC5TY Reactive Abuse - The Abused Abuser https://youtu.be/0wwswrPGdP0 Toxic Amnesia https://youtu.be/ot3IwBtL51U Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #gaslighting #narcissisticabuse #darrenmagee

Narcissistic people can be both intimidating and coercive towards other people. In this video Darren Magee outlines some of the most common tactics, phrases and behaviours narcissists use to control, manipulate, bully and threaten their victims. These behaviours would most commonly, though not exclusively, be present in long term relationships with a grandiose narcissistic partner or family member, even work colleague, and include blame shifting, threats, demanding obedience, punishing, gaslighting and vindictiveness. Other Videos you might find interesting Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome https://youtu.be/rcQ9kz-fdEo How Covert Narcissists Manipulate https://youtu.be/UTDics5IeDs The Altruistic Narcissist https://youtu.be/7ZX-VMI-Liw The Dark Empath https://youtu.be/wChB6LLpLdA Please feel free to suggest any topics you you might like me to cover in future videos. If you found this video interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissisticrelationship #narcissist #bullying

Trauma Bonding occurs when a there is a one sided power balance in a relationship that is exploited through both positive and negative reinforcement. This can create an emotional but dysfunctional attachment that occurs in the presence of danger, shame or exploitation. It is a form of psychological and emotional abuse that normally occurs in coercive relationships. In this video Darren Magee discusses the difficulties of having been trauma bonded and some of the obstacles to recovery, but also looks at some ideas that can help on the path to freedom. 0:00 Intro 0:38 What a Trauma Bond is 1:20 The affects of being Trauma Bonded 2:18 Educate yourself 3:49 Don't go looking for them to 'fix you' 5:24 Stop blaming and punishing yourself 6:27 Learn to self sooth 6:48 Recognise you are grieving 8:05 Build supportive relationships with others and utilise your support network Other videos on this topic you might find interesting: The Stages of Trauma Bonding https://youtu.be/W2KyP8mmae0 Six Signs of Being Trauma Bonded https://youtu.be/cDCV9jYvfqs Further information for support can be found below: https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help https://belfastwomensaid.org.uk/ https://mensallianceni.co.uk/ Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video interesting or helpful please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

Parental alienation is when one parent intentionally displays their child unjustified negativity and displeasure aimed at the other parent. The purpose of this behaviour is to damage the child's relationship with the other parent and to turn the child's emotions against them. In this video Darren Magee discusses parental alienation, what it is, the different levels, and how it affects children. Something which often happens at the end of a relationship, divorce and child custody or visitation battles. Also looking at three different indicators in children that may show parental alienation taking place due to a toxic / narcissistic ex partner. Co-Parenting with a narcissistic ex partner https://youtu.be/Ef3qnsYHCVY Please us the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in the future. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #parentalalientation #toxicrelationships #narcissism

Recent interview with Tegan Osmond where we discussed narcissistic behaviour in the workplace from overt to covert. We also discussed the reasons why some people (often known as Flying Monkeys), support and enable them to behave the way they do. Find more interesting conversations with interesting people on The Tegan Osmond Channel https://www.youtube.com/c/TheTeganAlexandraOsmondChannel If you find this video interesting or helpful please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissist #flyingmonkeys #darrenmagee

Emotional abuse is a form of coercive control that belittles and humiliates others to limit their choices and restrict their freedom. In this video Darren Magee outlines emotional abuse and discusses some of the signs such as unkind humour, constant criticism and being condescending and dismissive - and looks the long term impact of being emotionally abused. Other videos you might find interesting: Psychological Abuse https://youtu.be/uSg-jT0bn4o Triangulation https://youtu.be/e8rmJbMCtno Ostracism https://youtu.be/B9BAXkwVNj0 Financial Abuse https://youtu.be/IajHlGw_jTo If you need support for being abused there are some helpful links below. https://mensallianceni.co.uk/ https://belfastwomensaid.org.uk/ https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help Please feel free to use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like to cover in future videos. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #emotionalabuse #coercivecontrol #darrenmagee

Jay Reid is a licensed psychotherapist based in California. He specialises in helping people recover from difficult childhoods, often survivors of abuse who have had to contend with a caregiver who is pathologically self-absorbed or narcissistic. Darren and Jay discuss the nature of narcissistic abuse, the role of the 'scapegoat', and the impact it can have on children when they reach adulthood, as well as looking at adults who find themselves in narcissistic relationships. Discussing also the journey of recovery and healing, and potential obstacles people may face along the way. Jay has a Youtube channel where he uploads weekly videos aimed at educating people about narcissistic abuse and provides an online course and Facebook page aimed at supporting recovery for those who've been in narcissistic families and relationships. Jay Reid's Channel https://www.youtube.com/c/JayReid_narcissistic_abuse_recovery/featured Learn about Jay's online course to recover from narcissistic abuse here: https://jreidtherapy.com/narcissistic-abuse-course/ Here's a link to Jay's paper on how a narcissistic parent gets the scapegoat child to believe they should feel bad about themselves: https://jreidtherapy.com/publications/ If you find this video interesting or helpful please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissisticparents #scapegoat #darrenmagee

An Internet troll, sometimes referred to as a cyber bully, is someone who spends time on social media and online networking sites trying to draw other people into contentious, uncivil and sometimes utterly pointless conversations. Many hide anonymously behind their computers, phones and tablets or may even use fake accounts to cause misery for others through their comments and remarks. In the second video in this series Darren Magee looks at the research into the personality types of people who troll others online, from the nuisance to the sadistic. Research has shown people with dark personality types such as the Dark Triad, and Schadenfreude (sadism) are more likely to engage in online trolling. This could also be described as The Dark Tetrad, subclinical elements of psychopathy, narcissism, machiavellianism and sadism. Further research into online trolling has found a link between loneliness and aggression. Part one of this video - Nine Different Types of Internet Troll https://youtu.be/bLJMBnO02OY Other Videos you may find interesting: What Motivates Narcissists? https://youtu.be/ic0dmzz8wQ8 Is Cancel Culture Vindictive Narcissism? https://youtu.be/Q7BRD-siRA4 Triangulation https://youtu.be/e8rmJbMCtno Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video interesting or helpful please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #internettrolls #onlinetrolling #darrenmagee

An Internet troll, sometimes referred to as a cyber bully, is someone who spends time on social media and online networking sites trying to draw other people into contentious, uncivil and sometimes utterly pointless conversations. Some hide anonymously behind their computers, phones and tablets or may even use fake accounts to cause misery for others through their comments and remarks. In this video (part one of two) Darren Magee looks at the different kinds of internet troll from the nuisance, to the very cruel, and what their possible motivation could be to cause fear and mayhem, and when they gang up on their targets. 0:00 Intro 01:48 'Pay attention to me' Troll 02.28 The Griefer 02:52 The Pedantic (aka Grammar Police) 03:45 The Intellectual Troll 04:52 The spreader of misinformation 05:20 The Predator 06:25 The Perpetually Offended Troll 07:33 The Trolling 'pile-ons' 08:12 The Hater/Insulter 08:51 Their Motivations Part two of this video - Internet Troll personality type https://youtu.be/elkimw5TRQs Other Videos you may find interesting: What Motivates Narcissists? https://youtu.be/ic0dmzz8wQ8 Is Cancel Culture Vindictive Narcissism? https://youtu.be/Q7BRD-siRA4 Triangulation https://youtu.be/e8rmJbMCtno Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video interesting or helpful please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #internettrolls #cyberbullying #darrenmagee

Rumination is when we obsessively over think over the same things again and again. It can be addictive and keep people stuck in a cycle of fear, anxiety, anger and depression where recovery and moving forward can be hindered. Common reasons for rumination include past injustices, unfairness, narcissistic abusers and fear of the future. In this video Darren Magee outlines what rumination is, why we ruminate and discusses some ideas to help break the cycle. If you find this video interesting or helpful please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #overthinking #rumination #narcissisticabuserecovery

Histrionic Personality Disorder is part of the Cluster B group of personalities and is characterised by exaggerated emotionality and attention seeking behaviours such as being seductive, amplified gestures, rapidly shifting and shallow emotions. In this video Darren Magee looks at some of the common characteristics and behaviours in a man with histrionic personality and outlines how they manifest in relationships. If you find this video interesting or helpful please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #histrionicpersonalitydisorder #histrionic #DarrenMagee

Histrionic Personality Disorder is part of the Cluster B group of personalities and is characterised by exaggerated emotionality and attention seeking behaviours such as being seductive, amplified gestures, rapidly shifting and shallow emotions. In this video Darren Magee looks at some of the common characteristics and behaviours in a woman with histrionic personality and outlines some of the similarities and differences between narcissism and histrionic. If you find this video interesting or helpful please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #histrionic #histrionicpersonalitydisorder #darrenmagee

Carl Jung described shame as 'the soul eating emotion'. In this video Darren Magee discusses when feelings like embarrassment, guilt and shame become toxic and can lead to avoidance behaviours as well as social anxiety, self loathing, low self esteem and confidence and fear of criticism and rejection. Looking also at where it comes from and ways to help address it. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #toxicshame #shame #darrenmagee

Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) is a type of mental health condition that can happen after someone experiences long term traumatic situations and events. In this video Darren Magee outlines the differences between CPTSD and PTSD, looks at some of the common causes and symptoms (such as dissociation, negative self view, difficulties trusting others) as well as different approaches to treatment such as EMDR. Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #çomplextrauma #CPTSD #DarrenMagee

Common characteristics of narcissism include grandiose behaviour, a sense of entitlement, being disagreeable, a lack of empathy, being emotionally abusive, highly resistant or sensitive to criticism and being manipulative. In this video Darren Magee outlines the motivation behind some of the typical behaviours and beliefs of narcissistic people. Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissism #narcissist #DarrenMagee

Post Traumatic Growth is a theory developed by psychologists Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun in the mid 1990’s that explains a transformation of positive growth experienced by people who have endured psychological struggles with adversity. In this video Darren Magee outlines the theory and looks at some the areas in which people can grow as a result of their trauma, as well some ideas that might help with that growth. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #posttraumaticgrowth #trauma

Triangulation is a form of psychological manipulation aimed at, among other things, dividing and conquering others. It is an unhealthy maladaptive strategy that tends to generate even more negativity in relationships. In this video Darren Magee outlines the nature of triangulation, some of the reasons behind why people triangulate and the affects it has not only on the person being targeted, the third party brought into the conflict, but also on the manipulator themselves. Other videos in this series about coercion: Emotional Abuse https://youtu.be/9KiReTScQxM Ostracism https://youtu.be/B9BAXkwVNj0 Financial Abuse https://youtu.be/IajHlGw_jTo Psychological Abuse https://youtu.be/uSg-jT0bn4o Gaslighting What is Gaslighting? https://youtu.be/-jtuYJLfAHw Please use the comment box to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #triangulation #psychologicalmanipulation #narcissism

Othello Syndrome (Sometimes known as morbid jealousy, sexual jealousy, delusional jealousy or erotic jealousy syndrome), was first coined by psychiatrist John Todd. Named after Shakepeare's play, 'Othello', it refers to someone who is consumed by obsessive, intrusive, and at times delusional thoughts about their partner's fidelity. In this video Darren Magee outlines what it is and some of the common characteristics and triggers. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #othellosyndrome #delusionaljealousy #morbidjealousy

Spineless Sadism is a subtype of Sadistic Personality. Typical characteristics of sadism include getting pleasure from other people's suffering or asserting dominance through inflicting pain and humiliation and acts of aggression and violence. The common traits of Spineless Sadism include being part of a larger group that bullies and abuses, gaining gratification from watching others in pain and distress and lying about their ability to inflict pain and misery. Sadistic personality quite often co occurs with, among other things, narcissistic personality and psychopathy, and is one of four components of the Dark Tetrad. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #sadisticpersonality #sadism #darrenfmagee